what do u think parents. what would u do? we dont get along very well in the first place, but i still do what im supposed to as a mom. his real mother does nothing! he dont even see her( by his choice). i feel like not doing anything for him now. he's 16yrs old. I was reminding him @ a rule we have in the house and he was also coming up on me like he was gonna hit me but luckily his dad was there and stopped him from coming any closer. I see alot of teenagers killing their stepparent and this kind of behavior worried me for my life. I cant really leave because I have two kids(3yr) by his dad that I do love. help any opinions will be greatly appreciated!
2007-03-25 07:05:38 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Same situation here. exact same.
I would say to him. This is our house, our rules. If you cant except that then there is the front door, but know this, you go through that front door then it is my responsibility to call the police and report you as a run away and when they catch you you will go to juvi detention. Our 16 year old think i should not be able to discipline him because i am the step parent.
I said fine, pay rent and fend for yourself and i will leave you alone. But when i set him down and said this is your share of all the bills, gas, elect, phone, garbage, house. The i threw in gas for vehicles, maint, and my hourly wage for driving him anywhere,,
He said fine,, he will do that,,, but he caved later that day after have zero money.
Stand your ground, but if he ever raises a fist to you, you call the police IMMEDIATELY,
that should never be tolerated.
If you want more of my history with my 16 year old then email me. he has been grounded to his room for the last 2 weeks and he is not done yet. I took away every electronic device he has. His room has a bed, dresser, clothes, and an alarm clock with no radio.
I could go on and on.
You are the adult figure,,, not him,, he needs to realize that.
2007-03-25 07:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to have his DAD sit down w/ him and tell him. He's to listen to you..and what would happen if he was ever to lay a finger on you.
He needs to know that his actions will have a reaction. If his father won't step in and do this for you. I would leave. Because he is telling the boy by not stopping him this is okay w/ him. I couldn't and wouldn't live under that much stress everyday!!!
He's also showing the other children what they can get away with. And they will think this is normal behavior...
If dad is does all this and still no change. And you stay I would look into boot-camp!!
Good-Luck.....
2007-03-25 14:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by sparksgirls6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its time that you, your husband and stepson sat down and had serious talk. Tell him, so ok i am not your mother but this is my house and we have rules that need to be obeyed. Make sure you tell him that you do care about him and do worry for him like he is your child. Never let this kid lay a finger on you ever
2007-03-27 02:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by MommyX6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree with him. Say "I know I am not your mother. But I am an adult and a person that's entitled to your respect . And if you chose to stay in this house you are going to stop talking to me any which way." Also, if that little fool ever acts as if he is going to hit you again, CALL THE COPS!!! Let him explain himself to the boys in blue if he thinks it is okay to behave that way with a woman.
2007-03-25 14:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋