There is a girl at school I want to ask out (or at least become friends with.) I am a nervous and shy person who does fear being rejected, but I have a bigger problem. The girl I want to ask out has asked out one of my close friends, but my friend has not decided if he wants to go out with her yet. What should I do?
2007-03-25 06:55:00 · 5 answers · asked by booglefoppingboy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sticky situation. Talk to your friend and see if he is interested in this girl. If he is, you are out of luck because the girl has made her feelings for your friend known.
If he says he isn't, you still have a chance. And you should ask your friend to help you. Ask him to (very gently) shoot her down. Wait a day or so. Then approach her.
But be careful. Don't ask for a date right away but be friendly. (Smile, greet her by name, make small talk.)
If you have female friends give them permission to tell people that you have a thing for her. Knowing that you like her will make you more attractive to her. (Trust me on this one.)
2007-03-25 07:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not ask her out. Obviously, she doesn't have feelings for you right now, so that'd just make things with her, your friend, and you very awkward and uncomfortable. What you need to do is just start talking to her about anything. Maybe you're in the same clubs or same class, or you could tease her about liking your friend (which would be flirting). Start out friends first, see where things go. If your friend and this girl enter into a relationship though, it will be best for everyone if you try and get over her.
2007-03-25 06:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course she doesn't have feelings yet, she doesn't know you like her. You should let your friend know you like this girl. To be fair to you and your friend. If you don't you will start to fell resentment toward them, even if you don't mean to. Especially if they start to date on a regular. You have to break the shy stuff. Girls like a little shy, but to shy is a turn off. Being friend first is a good idea, i wish i would have been friend first with my ex. I might not have gotten with him if i had. Or you can just go straight to the punch and ask her out. If she says no then that is that and you dont have to wonder anymore, and move on to the next. Of course you will feel like crap but think of it as her loss not yours. Ultimitly you have to decide what you want to do, and what works for one person might not work for you. Remember, there are allot of girls out there, dont focus on just one if she is not worth it. Good luck!!!!!
2007-03-25 07:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by betterwithage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Have the courage to approach her. This is #1 for a reason.
2. Smile and be yourself.
3. Keep eye contact as much as possible (do not look at other girls, do not look at her breast).
4. Be balanced. Talk -Listen. Listen -Talk. Do not just listen. Do not do all the talking. Listen and respond.
5. You know it is time to kiss her if she has spent more than 8 quality hours with you (sometimes 3 dates) and she smiles and laughs at your jokes and you have held hands already (mess this up and you will probably end up in the friend zone).
I wish you the best of luck and if you don't succeed with the first...don't worry...there are plenty of others to try this method on. But I know this usually works on me and I am a girl so I should know.
2007-03-25 07:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by Melina A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
meet the girl through your close friend, and try to become friends with her. then ask her to a movie and see what happens
2007-03-25 06:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by bumpercar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋