what do you think of a relation between a catholic and a quite strict muslim?

Question

do an european with no great believes in the religion go in a deep relation with a guy of strict muslim culture?my european friend has been engaged with a muslim guy for two years and now they are not longer together as the muslim guy wants his children to be muslim.my friend do not agree as she thinks that their future children should know both their parents culture.is the muslim guy selfish?should this relation go on?is it no sad tht they love each other and cant be together for religion reasons?

Answer 1

I'd say it won't work

Answer 2

I think that you are your friend are quite naive even considering it, and there are hundreds of thousands of very unhappy women, because first of all you have to understand that since they are 5 years old they think that women are a second or even third class citizen, which means that their feelings are not important but themselves, many muslim men take their children to their countris and if the woman agrees to go cause of the money arrive to the worse nightmare ever.

I do recomend you to look after a person closer to you in heart and soul and not to become engage by lonliness in a relation where the person is thinking absolutely different than you and that simply doesn´t care cause doesn´t believe in another people´s rights or lifves but themselves.

This is not cause a Chrisitan or a muslim, look their countris, the problems they have, the way they live, the way they behave and how they have this problems mainly whith each other cause of the lack of respect.

This is not to be racist at al, you have in life to see and learn and make choices how you want live, what do you want and whit what you just simply decide not to deal with.

Don´t get any man, cause he arrive, really choose what it is better for you.

Answer 3

Religion is one third of your life, personality, and soul, I'm sorry to say. The other two is politics and love. It seems they have one third of it going, the love part. But if even one of the thirds is messed with, a whole relationship can be ruined! Religion would mess with politics and, as you have seen, their love life.
This relationship, sadly, cannot go on. "Soul mates" must share the same soul when they are eternally bound. There's no other way. They must connect their souls and make it one as what the "soul mates" term is used for. If there are opposites colliding and already a disagreement, you can't hope to be with the same person "until death do you part".
This Muslim man is very wise to break a relationship he knows in impure. He is smart to think things out and end it while he was ahead.
Tell your friend it's for the best. Disagreements BEFORE marriage can only grow and get worse. It had to happen.

Answer 4

It is sad, but there is something at work here other than two people, it is two completely different ideaologies.

The way that people with a Christian background (culturally NOT religiously) view and approach life is radically different than those with a Muslim background. I have lived for twenty years in Syria (2) and Jordan (18) and have witnessed not only the Jordanian and Syrian Muslims, but the many Iraqi, Egyptian and Saudi Muslims that either live there in those countries or vacation there, and the difference between even the Jordanian or Syrian Christian and the level of respect their women have in the community and the same nationalities but Muslim and the absolute livestock regard that they are shown is appaling! The honor killings, beatings, and jsut hygeine and sanitary conditions in the Muslim areas contrasted with the Christian areas speaks volumes.

I know many many "mixed" marriages between Muslim and Christian especially in Jordan and without exception every one of them is a miserable miserable failure. Your friend needs to think about all those things because her man is already telling her that she is going to have to yield to his ideology, the one that has brought the world to such a horrific time of turmoil fear and terror.

Answer 5

This is a sad situation, and nearly unresolveable. Religion is about much more than culture!

"It is only religion" is a viewpoint of a non-believer. To believers, especially people of strong faith, religion is VERY important. It defines who God is, what right and wrong are, and a person's fate in the afterlife. These are weighty matters! Monotheistic religions (in particular, Judaism, Christianity, and Islam) FORBID "interfaith" marriages, because all other faiths are in conflict with the "parent" religion.

Christianity (the Catholic girl is a Christian) and Islam are irreconcilible religions. Each faith renounces the spiritual leader of the other (Christians deny Mohammed was a prophet of God, and Muslims deny Jesus Christ is the Messiah of God). In order for these two to have a harmonious marriage, ONE PERSON MUST RENOUNCE HIS OR HER FAITH.

The consequence for that action, in BOTH religions, is HELL.

These two people should have never started dating.

Answer 6

It's sad that these two can't compromise, especially since Christianity and Islam are two religions that have huge similarities (compared to others). Having never been a parent, I can't speak from experience, but it would make sense to have their children decide for themselves. They owe them that at least, seeing as how most people stay with the religion they were born into, rather than exploring other options. Our ethnocentrism has us believing that our religion (the one we were born into) is right and everybody else is wrong. It's unsettling.

I guess the main differences would be the actual prayers. But both religions are monotheistic, one God, Allah and the Lord, both preach a life of prayer, morality, and compassion for others. I'm sorry your friend is going through this. I find it really ironic and disturbing that humans find it hard to get along because of their faith...especially when that faith preaches love and compassion for their fellow humans.

Answer 7

Personally I wouldn't agree with it they have very set ideas about children & dress. My ex fiancee was protestant & I was catholic but that didn't cause major issues. But it did bother me that we couldn't go mass together & I was in a catholic choir & he'd never come to listen to me. Whereas if you are the same religion your going to have similiar beliefs which would make things easier long term. Good luck.

Answer 8

I dont think he's been selfish, but neither do I think he is right.

Even if he is not a very religious muslim, then it is a HUGE part of his culture, & he will feel very disloyal to his family, if he does it any other way, he could even loose them, & in my experience Muslim family bonds are VERY strong, thats not a bad thing, but sadly doesn't bode well for any none muslim partner, who doesn't aggree to be part of that culture by giving up there own religion, & culture.
As a Muslim man, that will be even more important, as he will expect to be seen as the leader of HIS family, & his children to follow his culture, though in truth, having worked around a lot of Muslim people for a lot of years, its rare the man really is in charge, just allowed to think he is.

There are a lot of misunderstandings about the Muslim religion, & culture, not helped by the odd fanatasist that use religion as a flag to there own ends, but in General, this is NOT how most muslim people are, & Islam really isn't that much different to Christianity, Christ features in the Koran, as do all the rest of the Characters we know as "Christian", the only difference is, they dont belive Jesus was anything more than a very spiritual "man", & a great prophet......lets face it, if you are honest, how many of us in this day & age REALLY believe he was the Son of God etc etc???
....Mohammed was simply a later prophet, but not recognised in the bible...... most importantly, the CENTRAL message of BOTH books, is the same

I aggree your friends future Children, should know both cultures, & they probably still can, depending on the relationship, & the 2 people involved in it, but I doubt your friend will ever persuade her boyfriend that her, or her children, shouldn't convert to islam, its most likely, just TOO big a part of his upbringing, for him to ever accept otherwise.

Our own culture, has been watered down, for a long time now, & those very entenched family & religious values are no longer so intertwined, so it usually is far less to give up,
your friends family, may well make a fuss, but she is unlikely to be shunned by them, or her community, as her fiancee is more likely to be by his, at very least he will be seen by them all as been less of a man.

I've seen relationships like this work very well , though the woman did convert to Islam, & thier kids are brought up in the Islamic faith, but thats where it ends, their kids also know about other faiths, & grow up within thier Mothers culture, as does Dad
This woman was also Catholic, but not really very religious, though her family were, but they came around in the end, & in reality, religion isn't a big part of there lives.

This relationship, like ANY other will work, or not work, because of the 2 people involved, & BOTH of their ability to compromise, & comunicate

Answer 9

it is sad but they obviously don't love one another enougth to compromise and it wouldn't work anyway he and his religion are not for compromise he just using her till wee weak woman comes along who he can dominate and be total selfish Muslim male ..seen it sad but true ...ps..wouldnt matter what her religion was he would still be same Muslim or whatever

Answer 10

it ought to be both cos if they have kids together then that is a blend for a start yes, not being nasty i mean my genes your genes yes, so parenting should be shared so therefore the religions and values also..

Answer 11

Sounds impossible to me & with lots of problems in the long run !