Last time i had this friend and she was my best friend that was when i was in primary school. Then i can't really recall what happen but we ended up fighting and never spoke one whole year untill we moved on to high school. (i gueesing its serious). I shifted to new place n i last heared she went back to her home country. Then last year i saw her profile tru my other friend's account and she add me to her friends list. But even if i can see her online in messanger i still don't want to greet and make up. I dun know why but everytime i think about her....i get very upset and also angry. I want to make peace..but i dun want to give in talking to her......she add me in her list but never spoke to me yet. Do u think she is holding a grudge against me like how i am to her. I really don't know what to do,everytime i see her online i feel guilty yet at the same time angry.....what would u suggest !! (mine and her fly was quite close and my family think it is silly) but i can't help how i feel
2007-03-25 06:23:21 · 7 answers · asked by Jessica P 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
life's to short to hold grudges, try to be friends it shows kindness and people need to swallow there pride sometimes just so they can move forward. Answer me this o.k. Ur angry at her but lets say in a months time one of Ur other friends tells you that your enemy"old best friend" is dying of cancer would you still hate her or would you remember all the good times you had and try to comfort her? just some advice be nice to every one even if they aren't back to you it shows strength and character. good luck none of us are perfect but we shouldn't waste our time hating. Hope all goes well
2007-03-25 06:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by nightdreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are a lot of people in this world. Too many to spend precious time (of which there isn't enough) wasting on a person who isn't going to appreciate the time you are spending thinking about them.
I had a best friend who out of the blue totally dumped on me. I helped her out and then she just let me down bigtime then stabbed me in the back. I spent a couple of years wondering why and how I could have done things differently. I haven't had a really close friend since that time which is probably why I wasted so much time pondering. I missed that girly close friendship. However, despite not having replaced that relationship in my life I now do not think of her. She had her reasons however messed up I think they are and I think I'm too good to waste my time thinking why and what if. I bet she isn't! So now I enjoy spending time with the people that I do encounter. I hope you don't take any more of your very precious life out worrying about this person when there is a world full of people that can treat you with the respect you deserve.
2007-03-25 13:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you've both reached an age where you can be mature enough to resolve your argument. Neither of you would be "giving in" to do the right thing. You don't have to say it was all your fault, or become her best friend again. Just say, "Hey, how are you?" to show that you're not holding a silly grudge over nothing anymore. If she doesn't answer, tell her that you're available if she ever wants to. Then, just leave it at that.
2007-03-25 13:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 options: Remove her so you can't online message each other; Get together somewhere and talk things out, no matter how long it takes.
2007-03-25 13:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to kiss & make up right away. Send her a smile or a quick note on your account then see what happens.
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2007-03-25 13:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by Leilyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa sry was too long to read O.o
2007-03-25 13:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say SORRY!
2007-03-25 13:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋