hi... well i lost my dad on 17th march this year.....
since then i m not able to concentrate on my studies...lots of tension comes to my mind..............i know that time is the factor it'll solve all shorts of prob.... even though there is somethin that disturbs me.... dont know wots that...
please help me with it... i really dont know wot to do?????????
2007-03-25 06:16:59 · 9 answers · asked by cool4u_007 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am sorry for your loss! I just want you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Talk to someone soon.......think of all the great memories about your Dad and know that he is there with you in spirit...He wants you to be happy not sad. Take care.
2007-03-25 06:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Losing someone is very hard to overcome. I'm 16 and have lost 3 friends since august of this year. Nothing anyone says will help you get over the empty feeling inside of you now that your dad is no longer a figure you can be with everyday. Trust me, God wont put you through more than you can handle. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. There is a reason that Jesus has put you in the position you are in. Just remember we all have an expiration date giving to us by god and no matter what happens in your life time, your day is also coming. Things will be much better in heaven, its a place without worries but just live your life now with no regrets, always carry memory's of him with you, and remember you will see him again one day. Then he can be so proud of the way you lived your life and the things you achieved. Hes still watching over you. Good luck, things will get better in time.
2007-03-25 13:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by CountryGirlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what kind of a relationship you had with your dad but it seems it was a pretty cool one. I apologize because I am not about to tell you "sorry for your loss" but I will tell you congratulations on having gained so much from him.
If you are grieving your father's departure you understand that he was very significant in your life. Identify, specifically, what you miss? What are you most greatful about? What did he bring into your life?
It is perfectly ok if you feel you need to take a break from your studies. However, if studying keeps you busy, keep going and don't worry much about this semester.
There is a small book that has certainly helped many whom I know deal with the "losses of life". If you are looking to heal from this event I recommend you invest some time in reading. Also, you might want to consider talking it over with someone you trust or maybe a professional who can help you debrief this experience.
Please take care, and success!
2007-03-25 13:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am deeply sorry for your loss and i know exactly how you feel because i lost my dad too and so many things were unsaid that it ate me up and i couldn't deal with anything so I decided to have a long talk with my dad by writing a letter to him and then my daughter gave me these two books because she was his little girl and they were so close but she knew i needed to talk but she couldn't so she gave me these two books by James Van Praague.The first one is called "Talking to Heaven"and the other one i can't think of it write now but it follows this one in a pink cover.They helped me so much and i got a better understanding of life after death. Hope you find comfort and peace sweetie...by the way my dad who I loved dearly passed away 5 years ago so believe me it will get easier with time and you will wrap yourself in all the good times and memories you shared with him.
2007-03-25 13:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Dodgegirl62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. When you lose someone, our main concern is and should be for us - how are going to cope without them? How will we carry on? As for the person that past away, they are t peace - never to fall sick nor die again. This has kept me going through hard times. You may want to see a counsellor if you don't feel okay. Stay blessed.
2007-03-25 15:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sofia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom died 8 years ago from cancer and she was 56 years old, so I understand how you must feel. It is very hard, I remember how I was back then, but in time I think you will feel better...Take one step after another, try to be strong and keep your mind busy by studying...Good luck!
2007-03-25 13:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry about your father, i know how tough it can be. i lost my grandmother this past summer and i dont really know quite how i dealt with it. sometimes i would just lay there and think about her and think about all the things i didnt know about her, but sometimes i would try to block her from my mind because it was painful to think about it. i suppose its a combination of staying strong, being with loved ones, and kind of remembering, saving.
good luck and im very sorry about your loss.
2007-03-25 13:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mediate, clear your mind............this will decrease most of the tension. Also, talk to ppl your closest to. Also, you can go to groups or chat rooms to discuss this maybe that will help.
2007-03-25 13:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by reds074 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...oh, honey...i can feel your pain right through this monitor...you are grieving, sweetie...it's only been a week!..cut yourself a break--a huge break!...and find a support group for yourself---online, in person...whatever...you gotta talk about it....this is a first step...
much love, and peace.....tammy
2007-03-25 13:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋