Help with my Mother...please why am i like this!?

Question

Okay...now, i love my mother my lord does she get on my nerves....she puts me on guilt trips and she knows she does...i left home at 15 because her and her attitude...towords me she used to call me all the names under the sun and tell me she had given up her life for me call me a selfish ****---i was 13!!!!!!! when she lost her husband (my stepdad) she would throw herself on the floor and scream at me....i left at 15 and i am 23 now and she is still making me feel like ****...i love her and i am grateful to her for adoptin me, but why is she so mean to me? from being 6 all i can remember saying was i'm sorry mummy to her all the time....for being normal...i was married at 16 to a man older than me...just to get away from her....and he is just as bad....today she woke me as i do nights and she went off on one at me cos i said she couldent come down...i went to bed an hour earlier i was knackerd....why is she like this she is not nasty to her "own" kids....

Answer 1

Because she is a very angry person and needs help. I dont care if you love because she dont love you any one who loves you and cares for you would not blame you for things you have no control over. ALL I CAN SAY ITS NOT YOUR FAULT YOU DID NOTHING WRONG

Answer 2

Oh honey you really need to start living your own life. You have never done any thing wrong and do not deserve this. Unfortunately my nephew is going through the same things with his mum. He wont listen to us and neither will she. Get on with your life my friend, she will realise that you don't need her and maybe come around. If not you need to live before everything ends for you by that i mean your happiness. My nephew is nineteen and has been self harming himself for years he thinks its all his fault his mum is a selfish bi***. But it is not, and it is not your fault either. It will be hard for you at first feeling guilty no doubt. But do it you deserve to honey. All the very best honey. xx