3 yrs ago I met a person online. We have since become good friends. We share life stories and secrets and exchange funny emails. I am a married female and this person said they were a single male. We knew we would never meet so the subject of romance was never an issue. We just never talked about it.
Recently, this person has confessed they are really a lesbian female and they have always had romantic feelings for me but never said so before for fear of scaring me away.
I am now confused. I understood we were just friends in any case but now things have changed. This person is always wanting to call me and bugging me to go visit them (in another state). I am not going to see them and that makes them even more obsessive.
What should i do? Am I over reacting?
2007-03-25 05:20:43 · 23 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this could become a dangerous situation if you're claiming the person is becoming obsessed. for the good of you and your family , I suggest that you stop talking to this person. Who knows what other secrets and tricks they might have up their sleeves. They could turn out to be a person you least suspect.
2007-03-25 05:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do Not GO. They weren't upfront with you and now they want you to take the risk of going to where they are. NO DON'T GO. If you were looking just for a on line friend just to confide in an seek advice, that is one thing but to be misled and have them try to cover it up with lies about scaring you away just sends off warning flags all over. I am married and have been for 32 yrs. I have no interest in another woman. None!!! Now I want to meet you and tell you that I didn't want to scare you off. What are you feeling, SCARED not happy or excited but scared. Drop them and find someone who just wants to say hi how are you doing today and whats the weather like in you home town. Don't take the chance of ending upside down somewhere. Friends can be friends
2007-03-25 12:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by freesample1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can let her know that you are hurt by her lies and deception. Since the whole relationship was built on lies you have to cut it off now. Tell her you don't care that she's a lesbian but you are married and are not looking for a romatic relationship with a man or a woman.
You are not overreacting. But by keeping in touch with her you are giving her a sliver of hope. You need to cut it off completely because she has deceived you.... if she really is a she.
Trust your gut.
You can get an order of protection (retraining order) against someone that can include phone calls and emails if she ends up threatening you but hopefully it won't get to that point.
2007-03-25 12:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by lizE999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your email address and stop having relationships with strangers on line. Now she is saying she is a lesbian next week he will show up on your doorstep with a chainsaw you have been very foolish and put yourself and your family at risk. If you know their name it would be wise to get a protection from abuse order that would keep them at a distance should they show up in your state. Don't play the fool this is potentially a very dangerous situation. Tell your spouse what has come about and make him aware of the incumbent dangers of your situation. Be particularly careful with the safety of any minor children you have.
2007-03-25 12:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not reacting at all, she has misled you, you have to cut her out of your live and no more emails. You know what she wants and you don't so just let her find someone else and be upfront in the future. Make a clean cut from the situation.
2007-03-25 12:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by chez006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Block that person, bugging you cannot make you do anything you don't want to do. Tell them to stop. On line realtionships are the plague of this generation. They lead to problems and crime. Get a life off of the computer
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2007-03-25 12:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jim R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no relationship because she lied to you from the beginning.
Simply ignore her. Do not email her, do not speak to her.
Simply shut her off.
Since she is in a different state you probably aren't at much risk, unless you gave her your home address.
If you did, (duh) then write her one last time stating that if she arrives at your home you will call the police. Then cut her off from you completely.
Enjoy your husband instead of making 'new' relationships online.
2007-03-25 12:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Avsky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not over reacting. Tell them to back off or block them permanently. Think, what would you do if this was "real life"? Someone who is capable of lying and is now stalking you is trouble.
2007-03-25 12:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by El Pajaro Loco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lesbian lied to you - break up the friendship that was based on a lie. Let her find herself another lesbian.
2007-03-25 12:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should ditch this 'friend', they sound a bit dodgy to me. Just have it out with them and if they're still bugging you, leave them, you're obviously agitated enough to wrtite to people on Yahoo! Answers so it's obviously getting to you.
Good luck!
Lorna
2007-03-25 12:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋