2007-03-25 05:15:23 · 5 answers · asked by jaybers68 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
oh i know the answer to this one! both! i had 23 years of experience as the caretaker. the narcissist has far more power and control----that, i now understand and that i allowed it but when weak from a childhood of abuse that's what happens. it took a critical moment is my life to finally see this man---and from there, i got myself a back bone and i thank god that i did. divorced for 2 years now, i find myself gun-shy.
2007-03-25 05:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by bridget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The caretaking personality could have been manifested out of a childhood where they were taught/conditioned to take care of others' troubles in expense of themselves. Caretaking is nothing wrong but if in the process one loses his/her self-respect, dignity, personality, the caretaker would have inner unresolved issues to begin with.
Other than that, if you are a totally healthy individual, narcissists could gradually break you down with manipulation, mind games, gaslighting sessions, periods where they ridicule your beliefs and destroy your morality, so that you totally become someone who has diminished self-confidence and have to attend to all his/her needs (emotional, physical and sexual).
Never think that you would not end up at this state. Never underestimate the amount of manipulative power they have.
2007-03-26 03:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by spencer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a narcissistic person in my family--so what I see is that naricissistic people seek out people who will cater to them and be their caretakers. As for the people who take care of them, mostly they find people who have the "disease to please" and who have a hard time saying "no". Narcissistic people do not like people who speak up for themselves and tell them "no"---they get very enraged. Just dont be an enabler and dont let that person control you. The best thing is to say no and change the subject when they start making their ridiculous demands
2007-03-25 05:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nars create caretaker personalities.
Nars are attracted to caretaker personalities.
2007-03-25 10:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Narcissists like codependent people who will enable them to be like they are; they look for someone willing to look after them, but the trait is already in the person they pick. In turn, codependent "enablers" are often drawn to what they percieve as the strength of the narcissistic personality.
2007-03-25 05:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by anna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋