How do I become a better person?

Question

I utterly despise myself for my procrastination, lack of firmness, indecision, hypocrisy, and laziness. I don't know if I'm stupid or not intellectually, for all the pointy A's on my report cards, but I do feel like the biggest phony of phonys. Words of wisdom, anyone?

Answer 1

You sound young, you will find your place, although you seem to be too hard on yourself I believe just having the desire to be a better person will get you there. One thing at a time, don't let the little things get you.... Just keep trying, some of this stuff just works itself out. Just don't go off the deep end with lifestyle, drugs, drinking that's all dead end stuff. It is hard I know to get through all this crap, starting your life and trying to make heads or tails of all the messes in the world and sometimes in our own families. You sound like you want something better, so keep that close, and be patient, Find a DVD called The Secret, just watch it... you can call it crap and get rid of it or you may just get what the secret is, wish someone had told me about it years ago !

Answer 2

Wow, this is a good one. For starters, you are not stupid, I don't believe in stupidity. If you've always been like this I would say to join a cause. Become a volunteer. Try something that will make you feel good inside. Believe me when I say you will become addicted to this feeling. The biggest bonus is the people you meet. They are just as addictive. I say within a year you will have a totally new personality.

However, if these feelings are new...You should examine what made you get there and fix it. You could be surprised by how some small action you made is making you feel like one big "phony".

I hope you find what your looking for.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Your grades in school cannot completely tell who you are. Having a grade A in all of your subject does not mean you also have a grade of A in your attitudes or values.

The only person who can determine how you can become a better person is yourself. We may give you several or a million words of wisdom but if you do not follow it, nothing will happen.

I believe that, in order for you to become a person that has an upright ethical or moral standard, you should first determine who your influences are. What I mean is, ask yourself..."Am I a fan of Bin Laden or whoever person who caused self destruction?" "Do I like books that has the theme of ghouls, monsters, or bad people?" "Am I in an environment full of criminals?"

Your influences may determine why you act in such ways. The moment you have sat down in your computer and asking this question to this site means that you figured out that you are not a good person. This indicates that you already have self-realization. This is an important factor!

I can't really give you an ideal, because it may not be applicable to you. What I can suggest is assess yourself and do what you think is right. Goodluck!

Answer 4

OK firstly you gotta stop with the despising! Self crticism is good but to despise that is not healthy. No one is perfect, sometimes we contradict ourselves; it hardly means we are phonies. We all like to affirm to the fundamentals of waht it means to be a good person but sometimes we slip up and thats totaly ok. only you know what you want and if you feel you need to change some aspect of yourself to be a better person do it a bit at a time and see how you feel afterward it may be it is not the inherantly outward stuff like procrastination thats bothering you; maybe theres something in you wanting for a change and thats cool but it neednt be the spanish inquistion take it as it comes. We all want to be better people but dont be forcefull or hasty in getting there; enjoy the process, do what feels good for you so you like you more and be good to others along the way. Let the fires burn. Best wishes and good luck!

Answer 5

If I hadn't know better i would've sworn that was about me. i procrastinate. what i do for that is to just pretend like the thing is due before it actualyl is. say two days before it really is due. maybe even reward yourself. i am also a hypocrite. i dont really try to solve that, but if i wanted to, i guess i would try to think about how i would feel if someone was saying that to me the same way i said it to them. the lack of firmness...you just have to remember it when its needed. there isnt much i can help you with that. ok, laziness...usually i cant help myself but i motivate myself. if i have to go excersize i look at say a magazine with a bunch of skinny odels to motivate me. indescision..um well you have yo make up your mind before you tell people about your descision, it will be much easier.

Answer 6

If you are kind and can get As in school then I have great deal of respect for you. I am also a huge procrastinator and I haven't quite figured out how to overcome that.

Answer 7

.your not being yourself for fear of what you think you might be .cut yourself some slack.it could be worse ,you could have this in your head and get big fat f's on the report cards .the fact that you can get good grades says you well and do have what it takes to be who you think you are ..i have been told i am the biggest contradiction to my self that there ever was .i like that as i can be many things for many reasons and am better able to cope with this life because of my self and so are you

Answer 8

So Simple .
Love all .
Satisfy with what you get .
Improve yourself without affecting others .
Learn to forgive .
Get rid of the negative thoughts in your mind , as they are not true .

Answer 9

you're already a better person! knowing what's wrong with you is one step forward to greatness... and bragging with your A's is fifty steps backward..hehehehe raise your own family, it will motivate you to be a better person( but be sure you're at the right age)

Answer 10

accept the defects of the others as you accept your defects… we are all; imperfect and…. weak in spite of our appearances. .forgive often to the others. so that the others forgive you ..
and finely to treat people like you; like to be treated !