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My husband went 2 his folks house this weekend. I work nights and haven't seen him since Thurs pm. I talked 2 him Friday when I was on my way 2 drop off my son and his daughter to the 2 ex's before going 2 work. He was getting ready 2 leave 4 the 3 hour drive. I tried to call and see if he made it safely but no answer, I didn't hear from him all day Sat even though he knows when I am home and driving 2 work.
He gets home today and I am hurt that he not only didn't call and say he was safe but that he didn't call at all on Sat. We have never gone a day without talking.
When he comes home today and I don't want 2 start with saying "you hurt my feelings" as the I missed you and I love you's are first.
But how long and how should I bring up the subject without it seeming like I am a bitching about it. I just want him to know that I did miss him and was worried at not at least hearing he got there safely.
I have gone out of town and call him and he usually calls me as well.

2007-03-25 04:17:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I do communicate I just wanted to get a feel about the best way to bring it up. Sort of like not wanting to be the stay-at-home mom that hits her husband with "the kids did this today" instead of I love you. I just wanted some suggestions about how to bring it up and not have him feel that the hurt feelings are more important than the fact that I love him. I just don't want us to start the trend.

2007-03-25 04:29:44 · update #1

11 answers

Tell him as soon as you get the chance. You don't want to stew over it and he needs to know. Don't make it a big deal. Just ask, listen to what he has to say, and move on. If you feel that there is something else going on, keep an open eye for it.

2007-03-25 04:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0 0

Sounds as though communication problems, if not other things, are in the offing here. He appears to do exactly as he wants, when he wants and leaves you holding the bag. You cart the two children around, work hard at a job and he can come and go as he pleases and doesn't keep in contact? That doesn't bode well in my book. If the behavior has changed recently then you need to be upfront about your feelings, hopefully without argument. He sounds a tad inconsiderate at best.
If this is his normal pattern then you need to find a way to communicate your feelings. However, if this is a new pattern of behavior out of the normal then something else is going on. He doesn't appear to be worried about your feelings or needs at this point.
If he won't talk about it then I would suggest you try counseling to get your feelings out.

2007-03-25 04:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by JOANNE C 1 · 0 0

You don't have to hit him with the question the second you see him. However I am concerned that you are afraid of being bitchy at him. After you great him at the door with a kiss and a hug (and he can smell the great diner and apple pie that you baked him) Tell him you were worried because he had not called you. (why didn't you call the in laws house to make sure he was OK?) Sounds to me like you two are spending too much time apart. Time to plan a get a way I think.

2007-03-25 04:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0 0

This is your husband you are talking about, you shouldn't have to wonder about how to talk to him. You just come out and tell him your concerns. Feel free to question him why he didn't let you know once that all was OK. Why not? Like I said, this is your HUSBAND.

Good luck and have a great day.
Kristy

2007-03-25 04:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. K 3 · 1 0

Just tell him..If you cannot communicate with your husband your marriage is in trouble..

2007-03-25 04:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1 0

Just tell him. I am sure he will be pleased to know that you were worried about him.

2007-03-25 10:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 0 0

sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him. tell him that he hurt your feelings. forgive each other .

2007-03-25 04:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by intelligent80000 5 · 0 0

Just tell him, he is your husband...
Keep an eye on him...

2007-03-25 04:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

just tell him,or he will never know how you feel!

2007-03-25 04:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0 0

Just tell him how you feel...

2007-03-25 04:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by Country Gal 3 · 0 0

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