He is aware that I am aware of what's happening. I have tried, endlessly, to tell him what he is risking but he stubbornly ignores me and tries to convince me that the other woman is just a friend and the relationship is nothing more, although they are planning a secret 4-night hotel stay while he is away handling business and personal matters. Now, I am feeling awkward around the wife and I don't know how to handle it. Do I break the friendship? Do I tell the wife? On top of it, I have to work with my friend on a daily basis, which I am trying to change. I love this guy like a brother but I am torn as to what to do and don't understand why I have so many emotions about this. This fling of his was discovered by his wife a few months ago and it nearly destroyed his marriage then as well as our friendship as I ended up in the middle of it but he convinced everyone that they misread the situation and he would discontinue the relationship with the other woman. What do I do?
2007-03-25 04:07:42 · 18 answers · asked by JC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Okay,First don't tell the wife because it's there problem and unless your really,really,really, close to the wife...you don't tell.Then you should change shifts because every time your near it is just going to get harder and harder.Try explaining to your friend one more time and this time make sure he fully understands what he is missing out on and how he is going to regret it in the future and don't let it be a 5 minute talk and give up,let it be a hour maybe 45 minute talk.If he breaks the Friendship your better off without him!
2007-03-25 04:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by ?¿Whatcha Doin'?¿ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should tell your friend that you know what is going on and you don't accept it! I would give him the option to make things right and if he doesn't then I would tell him that you are going to tell his wife. It will be painful and you may even be the one blamed for the whole thing, but that will just be a risk you need to take! If the wife is like most women she already has an idea that something is up! Don't let him get away with this because it will only get worse and his wife could end up with an std that she doesn't deserve ( that is what happened to one of my friends)! Think it over but I think you should make him tell! Good Luck!
2016-03-29 03:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
JC, I think that you should tell his wife the truth.After you do that I think that you should pretend to date your friends wife to make him gelous.Maybe you actually have feelings for his wife.Make him realize how much he loves his wife and why he married her.Bring your friends wife to the hotel that they are staying at and prove to her that he is really dating another women.If he was really your friend, he would understand why you are doing this.That is what you should do,Ankit A
2007-03-25 04:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by 23LbJtHeKiNg23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is better just to not be in the middle of it. If he already knows that it is going on and he doesn't want to believe you, don't bring it up again. Be there for him as a friend, but don't push the issue.
2007-03-25 04:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jason F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Karma will take over n then your friend will realize he had a good thing going on with his wife n you as his friend. He will get what is coming to him .....Stay out of it otherwise it may seem u are the bad guy and not the cheater...........
2007-03-25 04:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by irishredhead48 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that he has to tell her or you will!
Not a good friend to put you in a spot like that, as your good friends with both of them.
Give him time to tell her and if he doesn't then you should.Either way you may fall out with them!
The female will more than likely forgive you for being honest though it may take a while!
2007-03-25 04:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is up to your friend to tell his wife.. he needs to come clean and talk to her... Then he needs to break off the other "friendship" and be faithful to his wife... if she will keep him! He also needs to be more honest with you and appreciate your friendship and the support you have given him! He is lucky to have a good friend like you that is loyal, and willing to be there for him in good times and bad!
2007-03-25 04:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by MaggieO 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
god that's hard, so I'll answer as if i was the wife of this man, I'd want to be told and not be the last to know. maybe you could send an animus letter to tell her the time and date of there hotel date, that way they wont know its you or if your the only one who knows about the hotel try it on one of there other dates. it best she knows. my first husband cheated and i was the last know and wished someone had told me.
2007-03-25 04:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would act rather aloof to both, when asked why I would tell them, I don't want to be in the middle of your problems. That would be putting the ball in their court where it belongs. It is so unfair to you. Good Luck.
2007-03-25 04:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell his wife i know if i was married and being cheated on id want to know and if a friend of mine and my husbands didnt till me he wouldnt be my friend at all after i found out besides he cheated on his wife who he made vows to i doubt he is going stay your friend he will dump you as soon as someone cooler comes along just like he dumped his wife for someone hotter
2007-03-25 04:34:43 · answer #10 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋