My girlfriend is unable to orgasm. She has only had one in her life. I haven't had this problem before.?

Question

She is in her mid 20's and I'm 31. We have great sex, but this has been bothering me as I have never been with a woman before that has had this issue. I have tried everything. She is unable to tell me how she can reach orgasm and can't even do it on her own. Is this perhaps something related to her age? Is there anything else I can do? Can she get professional help? Thanks in advance for your help.

Answer 1

Be patient and experiment. It has as much to do with the mind as the body. She could be psyching herself out at this point. At least you know she has had one, so the possibility is there. Keep the mood light and have fun with foreplay. And like was said above, vibrators can be a huge (no pun intended) help!! Good luck!

Answer 2

These questions are for your gf. I don't know how you will ask her these questions without freaking her out. They are mainly for women who ask for help, not their bf. But here they are anyways:

I have some strange questions for you. Most of it is about a condition most women don't talk about. Some of this may not apply:


Have you ever mastrabated? If no, then it isn't surprising that you won't have an orgasm as they don't come easily, you need to know how to use the muscles in your boby. Try running you privates under the bathtub facet.

Also, you probably won't have an orgasm if your husband enters you right away. It takes lots of foreplay. Making him live up to his responsabilities.

Finally, does it feel like you need to pee at anytime while you are masturbating or having sex? If so, read the following:

It is a normal feeling for many women (the pee feeling). The lucky women known when and orgasm is coming, but the unlucky women confuse it with the 'pee feeling' and out of fear of wetting themselves they stop, thus keeping themselves from having an orgasm.

Not too long ago women didn't have any places to go and get advice.

Remember, the 'pee feeling' is actually the 'orgasm-feeling'. You may release a bit of fluid, but this isn't pee. More likely than not you will just have a really good orgasm. But you first need to let go, allow the feeling to envelope you.

If you are afraid to do this while having sex, you can try it by yourself in the bath-tub or shower, just so that you will know what will happen and what it feels like. When you are in the shower, their is no need to worry about accidentally peeing.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I am 25 and had this problem as well. I had a lot of sex when I was younger; but never had an orgasm till just a few years ago. Have her try being on top. If she can position her clitoris in the right spot and just move back and forth rather than up and down; it might work. That way she can control how fast or slow depending on how it makes her feel.
Also; I have heard that age and wieght sometimes affects the ability to orgasm. Hope this helps both of you.

Answer 4

she is so lucky to have you. she can definitely see someone professional. try to meet up, perhaps as a couple (which would be better because you get the information firsthand), with sex therapists. explore.

a girl becomes sexually active around puberty and declines with age. (it's a myth that women's peak sexual when they reach their thirties. it's just usually when the majority already know themselves much better, know how to pleasure themselves and how to get there)

your girlfriend of course is very young. however every woman is different. angles will matter, positions will vary, much more rhythm and the other details - and every little bit matters. you've already asked the question and I'm sure you aren't stopping there.

and when she said she had only had one in her life, was is coital orgasm? how did she reach that orgasm? perhaps she could show you.

she will have to teach you on how to pleasure her and the both of you would have to learn as a couple to reach orgasm as a couple. perfect practice makes perfect.

follow your bliss - and it seems to me that her bliss is yours, too.
stay in love.
rock on. (if only there were a few more like you...)

Answer 5

there are a few things that constribute to this , and it may possibly be something you or your partner can do anything about, I think it is more if you dont expect one , you will more likely get one , and that it is more and contributing to it all the emotional and phisical intamacy which bring the onset of orgasm in women , there are a few things which could be factors , some of which can not be changed , my advice is , always strive to offer the best lovemaking for your other half , if it doesnt work , you always have the knowledge that you are doing all you can to share the experience , and possibly in time , there may be times where the intamacy brings some moments of orgasm .. good luck!

Answer 6

you possibly are purely over doing it. 12 situations consistent with week? you should grant your physique a sprint time. After that many situations consistent with week your orgasms are probably going to get particularly boring. sluggish it down somewhat. too plenty will cause them to truly small and boring. -Connor

Answer 7

I didn't orgasm until my late 30's. So it could be age. Thank God I finally did. ;P......:)

Answer 8

some girls can and some cant.
I dont really think its an age problem. So Im younger (a couple years younger) and I have had orgasm.
sorry
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Answer 9

its natural some women cant orgasm and some can i'm sorry

Answer 10

Be patient and experiment. Ask her what she wants and talk to her whilst you are making love. Ask her what is pleasurable and what is not.