wat can you do to prevent yourself from expressing too much at the wrong time?

Question

i barely talk but when i do, its like anger. i love society but when i stay hidden, and quiet, people are saying things against "emos" . And sometimes I explode in front of my crazy loud parents.I try to release any thoughts about what they are saying but they are wrong! (emos not about cutting! and money doesnt buy happiness!). I stick up for myself but maybe mention " ill ****in kill you *****. and it sounds serious but from a weak kid. its just the emotion bursts out. like dwyane from little miss sunshine says "do wat u love and **** the rest!!!" ( when he has a mental breakdown also.)
i just recently expressed and it was odd.
now i know to calm down like usually...and silent.but for how long?

can someone please help?
thanx for any answers
peace (-<-)!

i just kind of expressed in front of these "crazy druggies b*****! and now its off my chest but what shud i do about the future?
it felt like a icecle was about to be stabbed in my heart!

im not the person who randomly shouts for no reason/

ive expressed myself recently.

Answer 1

Your explanation and story make me believe that: Silance is gold!

And he who keeps quiet regrates nothing!

Learn from the mistakes of others!

Actions are lounder than words!

All the best!/

Answer 2

Emotions are like wild horses that can propel you right off a cliff if you fail to master them. Use your mind. Think about the situation. Channel your rage into meaningful dialogue and intelligent conversation. Screaming like a ninny only makes most people disrespect you.

If you're in a situation with people who will almost certainly not agree with you on the topic at hand, such as parents, then there's no point in throwing a fit. It only invites them to crack down on you. Outbursts in front of pretty much any authority, including cops, employers, etc. are useless and will only get punished.

Learn the art of leverage and persuasion. Persuasion is obvious: calmly state reasons why the other person should come to your way of thinking and/or cooperate with your agenda. Leverage is a bit more subtle: it's getting an "angle" on the other such that they will cooperate with you even if they disagree with you. Leverage is much harder to get, however. Also, persuasion doesn't amount to much if you're communicating with people who aren't really listening. In that case then, channel your energies into your agenda, even if you have to make it a covert or secret agenda, and do not antagonize others by blindly expecting them to "accept you the way you are." Give them what they want to hear and see; then, on your own time, harm none(including yourself) and do as you will.

When interaction with others cannot be avoided, think carefully and aim for the results that bring the most benefit and/or least penalty to yourself. It's called survival.

Answer 3

Sometimes in life the best things go unsaid. As hard as it is the best thing of one of lifes best lessons in to know when to keep your mouth shut. This is also a sign of maturity. It serves no purpose to go off on someone for anything cause chances are it wont change a thing anyhow. Learn the art of ignoring some people and dont take everything so personal when they talk about you. Most of its rumors and nonsense anyhow and you know that youre better than that. You will never ever be able to please everyone throughout life so dont rty. Just be yourself and dont get caught up in the kid games of the world. People always like others who keep their mouth shut no matter what. Theres always a time to keep quiet and a time to speak intelligently what you want to say, you just need to learn the difference. Think about it and good luck