2007-03-25 03:49:26 · 18 answers · asked by wesley n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your wife does'nt love you anymore then you need to get a divorce and move on.You can't force someone to love you so you would just be wasting your time..You deserve better let her go and move on..Best Wishes
2007-03-25 04:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Has she told you this or is it just a feeling you have?
If she has told you this I would try to discuss it and work through things. All marriages go through ups and downs and yours just may be in a down cycle right now. It will swing back up again, but may take some effort to give it a boost.
If it is just a feeling you have I would start seeing a counselor and, again, discuss it with her. Does she work? Is it that you think she puts too much effort into everything else but you? Many men often make the mistake of assuming that their wives don't love them anymore because they feel as though they don't get the attention that work, relatives, kids, house, etc. receives. Or if the sex life is lagging even. We are just coming out of the winter cycle - many people's sex lives suffer during this time. Less daylight hours, being cooped up inside, coupled with lifes usual stresses - there are many things that can affect the sex drive. You should begin to notice a change soon with spring coming on if that is the case. Help it along a bit by giving your wife more attention - massages (or just back or foot rubs), help her out around the house by doing something you don't normally do, start spending more quality time with the kids (if you have any. This was always a big thing for me - there was nothing sexier than when my husband went out of his way to be a good dad. Unfortunately, it didn't happen often).
Maybe the two of you really need to sit down and reassess what your goals are. Make sure that you are still on the same page. If you are not - work out compromises and a plan to get back on the same page. My husband was always paranoid that we were growing apart and would get very clingy and jealous. Sometimes space can be a good thing (I'm not talking about separation, just normal activities that don't involve each other). If you two have too much space then start doing more that does involve each other. Take a class together, start exercising (walks/hiking, biking, horseback riding, etc.) together. Try to get involved in very bonding activities. Recommit. The important thing is that the two of you discuss this matter and don't just let it fester. Or if she has no idea you feel this way it will drive more of a rift between the two of you - she just won't have any clue as to why. She may be feeling as though you don't love her. If you do things for her but don't tell her why you do them, don't just assume that she will automatically know. We women can be just as dense as our male counterparts at times, lol.
Anyway . . . just talk to her and try to work out a plan. Don't just give up - you will both regret it later.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 11:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wesley how do you know that your wife do not love you anymore? Have you given her the affection, passion, that she needed from you.........do you go out of your way to make her feel special for all the things that she have done. This are the questions that you need to ask yourself, and ask her as well, then maybe you will have the answer that you been asking to,..good luck!!
2007-03-25 11:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes marriage is more than just 2 persons being in love. No one says you've got to be in love when you are in a marriage. Marriage is all about commitment, braving storms together and overcoming challenges together.
If you've got kids, then any decisions you'd make regarding the marriage will have implications on those around as well. It 's not an easy question to answer. And definitely it's more than a poll.
Think twice. Better still, think thrice.
2007-03-25 10:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by fatPig 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Relationships have their ups and downs and perhaps things just need to be spiced up to rekindle things. If her behavior is showing you no love, then sit down and talk to her about your feelings, however don't blame her or point the finger and make her feel guilty. Tell her you want to feel close to her again and you want to know if she feels the same way. There could be things that you are doing that you are totally unaware of that are pushing her away. People are creatures of habit, and relationship require alot of work, so put the time in and see what happens. Good luck.
2007-03-25 10:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you clearly have got some concerns to just say that. I suggest talking to her. You won't know anything this personal between your wife and you unless you do. Maybe mention just what you are willing to do to make the marriage even better. ;) Can't hurt right?
Good luck and have a great day!
Kristy
2007-03-25 11:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been an attentive husband? You will get back what you put into the relationship. Plan a romantic get away, just the 2 of you and fuss over her.
2007-03-25 10:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by Soulfulgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you have given her a reason? Talk to her first to confirm your doubts and then go to counseling. If you love her, try to salvage what you can.
2007-03-25 20:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by nancydeanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she dosen't love anymore than you got nowwhere to turn exept for God. Pray for him to restore you're marrigage. Don't worry I'll pray for you.
2007-03-25 10:53:57 · answer #9 · answered by Wisdom=Magenta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her why maybe you could try marriage counseling or if the worst come to the worst get divorced because if one one you is unhappy then the other will be unhappy
2007-03-25 10:58:55 · answer #10 · answered by outrun 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋