Follow up - My ex gf called to tell me she was starting a new relationship?

Question

My ex gf called to tell me she was starting a new relationship?
After being apart for around 3 months (after almost 3 yrs) my ex calls to tell me she is going to be dating somebody exclusively. After a month of being apart we've been talking once every 1-2 weeks. Why did she make it a point to call me in the middle of the day to tell me this? Is she being vindictive, or is she looking for me to fight for her? Is it a rebound relationship?

Follow up - I've been thinking of getting back together with the ex for a month or so but haven't pressed it because I wanted to give her her space. Should I risk her new relationship and the potential relationship I'm working on to fight for her or should I just let it go?

Answer 1

she needed you to know about the new relationship for one of two reasons, she wants you to move on, or she wants you to beg her to come back
i dont know which it would be

Answer 2

First of all you should not have posted this in marriage and divorce.. Because you are not either!!!
Second of all you made a big mistake in talking with her once every 1-2 weeks. What do you think ex means?
Third of all, why do you even care why she told you? My personal feeling is she wants to taunt you (very big clue that she is skum and double good you escaped from her)
Forth of all, do the right thing and let her go for good and give your new sweetie half a chance to show you what a healthy relationship is all about.
Fifth of all, be happy you didn't waste anymore than 3 years with her.

Answer 3

It is not fair to your current girlfriend to keep this going with your ex. You need to talk to your ex and tell her how you feel and see what she has to say. It sounds like your ex wants to move on with her life. Ask her if that is what she is saying. If she does then you should cut off all ties with her and move on. Until you can do this, you will not be truly happy no matter who you are with. You both may be in rebound relationships. Take time before committing to someone else.

Answer 4

If shes playing games you can play too. Just tell her that you found someone special that youre kinda interested in, but you were waiting to see if there was a chance of you two getting back together, but now that shes moving on,well... . This will put the ball back in her court and she will know exactly where you stand. Chnaces are once you tell her this , she ll be coming back real quick or youll know that she has really moved on. Try it and see, youve nothing to lose

Answer 5

I definetly think that she has told you for closure (look that up, if you're not sure). If you still like her, tell her now, before she starts this relationship.
If she was over you, she might not have told you, but remember just because she's not over you, doesn't mean that she'll take you back. It'll depend on her principles and why you two broke up. I still think however you should tell her, as this will be your last chance.

Answer 6

You need to be clear on your reasons of wanting to go back on the relationship.

Sometimes the end of a relationship simply means that you've learnt all that you need to learn from that person, and should move on to other chapters in life, where these lessons are going to enhance your other relationships or life aspects.

But you really need to be absolutely sure of your reasons of wanting to go back to the relationship. Will it be fair to either one of you? Especially if she has already moved on.

Answer 7

she realized she didnt want to be with anybody but you and called. the ball is in your court, honestly you really have a good amount of time to sleep on this because she wants you bad and so she'll wait if she needs to the only thing that would change that is if she met yet another guy and they fell in love but thats highly unlikely since you're the only thing shes thinking about.

Answer 8

She is your ex for a reason leave it that way..The only reason she is telling you about her new relationship is because she is playing childish mind games with you and you are allowing her to treat you like a puppet..Put her in your past and move on..Stop talking to her you are only setting yourself up for a big let down..Good Luck..

Answer 9

I'm going to guess it's because you dumped her and have been sniffing around, so she's telling you that you have been replaced.

Never breakup with somebody unless you mean forever. Never take somebody back. One chance per lifetime per person when it comes to something as serious as breaking up.

Answer 10

Let it go. Unless you really think she'll get back with you... otherwise one of you will end up getting hurt and it may ruin the relationship you do have (i.e friendship).