Having a baby whilst at university?

Question

I am due to start university in September this year! I'm in a steady relationship and would love to have a baby within the next 2 years, but i'm going to be at uni for the next 4 years! Me and my bf are going to get a place together whilst i'm at uni.

Would it be a problem if i had a baby whilst i'm at university?

Would you advise it or not?

Has anyone here had a baby whilst at uni or knows someone who has? How did you/they cope? any regrets?

Answer 1

while you might be able to handle it both finanically and emotionally, it is not an informed, mature or smart idea to have a baby while still at university.... for several reasons.

Obviously it will interfere with your study and state of mind... so I really dont need to go into details (unless you are really stupid, and I assume youre not).

The main thing is the financial difference it will make to the rest of your life. A baby, in financial terms, is a liability. It is something you will have to continually pay out money for without any prospect of getting anything back.

Ideally, you would be ready to have a baby when you are financially stable, and you have enough money producing assests to offset the liability (baby), and continue to improve the lifestyle you are living (which includes all other liabilities such as cars, mortages and other bills).

If you are at university, this is impossible unless your parents are filthy rich and you already have a large steady income that covers all liabilitys as well as good saving and money producing assests for when things go wrong.

This might sound superficial, but this is the real world.

You need to be financially stable as well as happy and emotionally secure to bring up a child properly. Introducing a baby now will make your prospects of being finanically stable harder by 100 fold.

Wait five years, save every cent between now and then while studying, and then think about having a child. It will be better for you, your partner and most importantly, the baby.
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Answer 2

If you're ready to start a family, then thats fine! Just make sure you are completely ready financially and emotionally to take on the responsibilities. Instead of going to a 4 year college, maybe you could first go to a community college, and get a Associates Degree within 2 years. The advantages are: you save a ton of money, and you have something to fall back on. Then after you graduate, you can start preparing for the new baby. If all goes well, you could transfer to a 4 year university to receive a Bachelors Degree!
It is very possible to do, you just have to have a plan.
Good Luck Girl

Answer 3

What is the rush? You will be an enirely different person in 6 months and in 2 years and in 4 years. Uni will expose you to all sorts of new people and new ideas and new experiences. Then you'll be out 'in the world' and undergo another whole set of changes you simply cannot predict right now.

If this is the guy you are going to be with for the next 50 years, you can wait 5 years to have a baby.