I just recently discovered that my wife is a prostitute. We've been married for seven years now and she just confessed this to me. I must admit I was quite taken aback by this revelation. I asked her if she would consider a career change but she told me that she would rather get a divorce first. We have three kids so I don't want a divorce. Can my marriage be saved? How?
2007-03-25 03:25:19 · 10 answers · asked by krm2020 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only way I see of saving this would if you totally and unquestionably accept her career into your marriage. True she probably deceived you before you got married which gives you fraud as the grounds for divorce if you so chose. This is a very dangerous situation if you decide to continue as 1. she could bring home an STD, which chances are high of happening if not already, and 2. your sanity revolves here around you being able to live with this. Her career choice is dangerous in itself as prostitutes are always getting beat up and could eventually accidentally come home and with kids around, not good. Really tough decision here with the kids needing their mom and all, sorry I dont have a better answer for you. I know if it were my choice Id opt out before friend and family find out accidentally and other kids will undoubtedly make fun of your kids. Not an easy choice here but definitely needs some serious thinking before deciding. Good luck
2007-03-25 03:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife has held this back and hidden it for seven years, I can't see any possible genuine trust re-emerging, after such a long period of lies and/or deceit. How was she able to conceal these things for so long from you?
If she refuses to consider a career change, with this being such a huge deal and tremendous burden, I would absolutely file for divorce. Simply put, she's been lying to you about this for so long...what else has she concealed?
Get yourself tested for everything you can, and file for divorce immediately, as well as custody of the children. You can't leave your children in her custody when you're not even certain of the motives of the person you were with.
Sincerely, it wouldn't appear that the marriage can be saved at this point. Therapy and/or counseling would only continue to delay and prolong the inevitable. Brace yourself for a difficult road ahead, but do what's best for your childre, foremost.
2007-03-25 03:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by wintermuteprime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but I'd go with a divorce. I know it's hard, beleive me. But you can't sit by and let her do this. If she really loved you, she wouldn't be sleepin around with random people. If my wife did that to me I'd be gone. No matter what. And through god's eye's she is a sinner. Does she realize she could get pregnant by another man, or even get an STD? How can she do that to you. She's kept a horrific secret from you for how long? You can't trust her and I highly recommend you leave or you will suffer a lot more hardships then this. The only way to save your marriage is if she stops this nasty habbit. She needs jesus or some kind of faith in her life to show her the light since she can't see it for herself. DON'T TAKE THAT CRAP FROM HER. You're the man. Always remember that.
2007-03-25 03:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by jeckel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to save your marriage and stay with a woman that is going to continue to sleep with other men.She obviously has NO respect for herself,you or your children.your children deserve a better life then that.Your wife is definately not a good role model for your children.
2007-03-25 03:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if it was the best 7 years of ur life then u should probley give her another chance. But if it was tha wors den u need to leave tha trick alone
2007-03-25 03:31:14 · answer #5 · answered by huslaliven1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a lucky man if you did not get sexual transmitted diseases or Aids,(HIV).Better is to get as soon as possible divorce,for the children safety.But if you love her indeed,for sure you will stay with her.All is up to you.Think well,and good. Good luck.
2007-03-25 03:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get tested she might have something. ask her y she would do something. maybe seek counseling if that doesnt work leave her. your kids dont need to be influenced by that type of behavior and the good of many outweigh the good for one.
2007-03-25 03:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by sixteen20012002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love your wife very much go for it.... ignore what other people say about your wife.... don't divorce... because wedding is a holy sacrament
2007-03-25 03:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by EyOt b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she lied first of all.... she broke her marriage vows... I think u should run and take ur kids with you....
2007-03-25 03:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by gina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is over, kids or no kids..are the kids yours ?
2007-03-25 03:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋