He came out to the whole family at a gathering . I had known for a long time. Everyone was supportive. But his church is not. Someone went and told the priest and he was asked to leave the church. He is heart broken over this and I don't know how to help him. I told him we would find a church together that would accept him unconditionally. But we have been to this church for many years. Maybe you can give me some advice on how to help him.
2007-03-25 03:01:05 · 11 answers · asked by tanlexus01 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would ask the priest how many adulterers were in the congregation. I would bet more than a few; statistically 60% of married men and 40% of married women commit adultery.
Now if I remember correctly, one of the 10 Commandments was "Thou Shalt Not Covet Thy Neighbor's Wife."
I say the 10 commandments are the real laws that any Judaistic person should live by. Thou Shalt Not Steal, Kill, Idolatrize . . . but no where in the 10 Commandments does it say, Thou Shalt Not Perform Sexual Acts With A Person Of Your Same Gender.
Besides, there are so many more pressing problems, like poverty, drug abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, etc that if your church is taking time out even to CARE that someone is homosexual, they aren't worth the dog doo on the shoe, and neither are your life-long "friends".
There are so many churches that are friendly to homosexuals, bisexuals, tansgendered, etc., and not all of them are even Christian. I hope you find a spiritual ome that is perfect for you all.
2007-03-25 03:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Songbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the priest in the church is not a very christian man. I am sorry to say this but it is true. The bible teaches love and tolerance not hate and dismissal. Do you remember the place in the new testament were the roman comes and asks Jesus to help his manservant. Well in the actual text it is not manservant but sort of like a houseboy or live in lover. Jesus tells him to go home and his "friend" will be healed because he believed more than even his Jewish brethren. If that is not a big OK from the second in command I do not know what is. There were two main reasons the homosexuality was thought of as wrong first gay men can not have children so they can not create more people. The second is because homosexuality was and still is though of as mainly a very adulterous because gay men sometimes have many partners. That as we all know is a sin for even str8 people.
2007-03-25 10:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by JONNY J 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's awful they must think he's like the biggest sinner in the church right about now but he's better off finding another church that will accept him for who he is. It's good that he has his family to support him.
2007-03-25 10:23:01 · answer #3 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in his case, he really needs to fellowship with other gay christians. He can find groups on the net, but meeting in person is very important. Maybe you could even host a little BBQ or something for them. Your family has done well, but they could come even more up to the plate and go with him to another church, and even consider changing their membership. I don't think I could take spiritual guidance from someone so hate filled, who hurt my brother or son. Is that what chritsianity is all about? I don't think so.
2007-03-25 10:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it'll take time and moving on. Be there for him and support him. Talk to some gay christians and find resources to help him if he needs that kind of help. Get him to a new church and let time lessen the pain.
2007-03-25 10:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that a place that is supposed to accept everyone as long as they believe in Jesus treated your brother this way. There's a church that does accept openly gays but it's not Catholic. Maybe you can tell him that he doesn't have to go to church to believe
2007-03-25 10:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.ucc.org
www.whosoever.org
www.soleforce.org
being a christian and being gay are NOT mutually exclusive!
we give away our birth rite when we let the most vocal and bigoted people set the agenda for OUR salvation.
these three sites at the top of my post are a good place for any gay person to start his search for god. whosoever is a good place to find out what the bible really says about gay people with out the -- that you find in the fundie sites. the ucc (united church of Christ) is a wonderful place to worship (my denomination so I'm a little bious) may god bless you and your brother-bob
2007-03-25 11:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by purplepickleater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to me back in 1991....only thing to tell him or to do would be supportive and if he still chooses to go to church then find one that is open to gays and lesbians ...its sad to lose friends because of that however its their loss.....he will make many new friends and as long as you and the family are supportive he will be fine
2007-03-25 10:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you tell your church to go **** themselves! then you write an editorial in the paper condemning your former church. then you realize that any sort of god(s) do not exist.....
2007-03-25 13:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please let him know that he should forget the church becuase the church protects other people that are doing worse things than being gay.
2007-03-25 10:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by crystal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋