okay I am engage to someone the I don't think I am ganna end up with . or I don't see my self spending my life with. and everything about my relationship is negative. it wasn't like that until we get close to the wedding witch supposed to be in July. my fiance he totally changing every day. he never say something and stick with it. I don't fell he loves me. he so cheap.and only think about his family an haw he ganna pay hes bills. I don't have problem with that. I have a job. and I am a collage student. independent. but I need a man who be there for me he never there for me. I want to talk to him and tell him that fact that he knows it about leaving me and move on with his and my life. IT happened before I know him for 4 years but for 2 years we wasn't together. anyways. 3 month a go I met a guy who I totally like and fell like hes the man that I can have in my shoulders...I didn't want to talk to him and decided to wait and see if he likes or just want to waist my time. but I was surprised that kept asking me for my number. and always try to meet anywhere I am . at the mall store. whatever . nobody did this to me and fallow me and wanted to talk to me so bad. last week I decide to call him. he asked to take me on a date. we did it was wonderful. hes just the man I see my self with. I real man. I know its too quick to say that. but he makes me fell spacial. I had a problem with my car last week. and he take care of everything and fixed it form ME he do anything for me I don't even have to asked . for the short time I know him I fell like hes wonderful. when we walking at the street he always protect.and make sure that we are in save place. I mean. I am a woman that needed a man and the who supposed be there he s not but there is other person that I don't know that ,much doing what ever he can to make me happy and make fell spacial. what would u do if u were me??!!! hes just want I wanted the looks the height the weight the personality. and Oslo the fact that hes from different country and speak different language then I am . . ALL THIS DAYS WHERE IS MY FIANCE he have no idea about haw my life is and what I am doing. I am lost I don't know what to do. should I keep up with my fiance or what?!!!
2007-03-25 02:57:22 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You aren't in love with your fiance and so you should move on. It doesn't matter whether there is another man in your life.
You seem to have the rest of your life together; you work and go to school which is great. Continue to work on yourself, you won't regret that at all.
Don't make the mistake of believing that one of your relationships is dependent upon the other. Get out of your engagement unless you see yourself bearing his children and loving him always.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 03:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a gamble which we all have to take a shot at. What it turns out is a later part. its not right to judge based on what you feel. It could even be a comminication gap. the first one might be trying hard to earn so that he can have time with you when you are finnaly together. the second one might be wooing you as he has a lot of time .Your financial independence can woo many if you know what i am talking about here. The point here is to find the character of a person. not what you see from your eyes...but what others perceive that as well. In your case i think you can meet with common friends of both and get a clear opinion. It's an old formula which is still used by parents and family members.
Why dont you check yourself on that.Since you are making the call.
The second point is on the engagement. When you were not sure that you will end up with this guy ..why did you go ahead with it ? Was that for fun? If you dont trust a person even for a single minute then there is no point in being with him right? If you spent 4 years and don't know that person ..then who is could be going wrong here? Maybe there is a lack of communication between you and the guy. Check out. Dont make decisions when you aint sure enough,and turn back once you have made them.
Good Luck.
2007-03-25 10:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by Satya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it wasn't right to date someone else when you are engaged already. SO...break up with your fiance before you see this other man again. And I think it's sad that you think having a man is the only way to make you happy. You sound very vulnerable and this new man might want to take advantage of you. Be careful and go slow with this realtionship. But you MUST breakup your engagement.The problems with your fiance will only get worse after the marriage.
2007-03-25 10:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by 2Bme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT MARRY IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY OR HAVING SECOND THOUGHTS. TALK TO YOUR FIANCE AND TELL HIM FLAT OUT, IF HE DOESNT GET HIS ACT TOGETHER IT'S OVER.LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL.
2007-03-25 10:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋