After being apart for around 3 months (after almost 3 yrs) my ex calls to tell me she is going to be dating somebody exclusively. After a month of being apart we've been talking once every 1-2 weeks. Why did she make it a point to call me in the middle of the day to tell me this? Is she being vindictive, or is she looking for me to fight for her? Is it a rebound relationship?
2007-03-25 02:55:13 · 11 answers · asked by Nonyo B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it's a rebound relationship. She either called to get your approval or to really tell you that it's over between the two of you. Wish her well, tell her you're happy for her if this relationship is something she really wants. This new relationship won't last long. You need to stop talking to her so frequently, it's only making you hurt. Be on your own for a while, find who you really are so that when the "right" one comes along, you are REALLY ready for a great relationship.
2007-03-25 03:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she tell you she doesnt want to talk to you anymore and wants to move forward?
Or was it just, Ive started a new relationship.
The best thing you can do is tell her that your happy for her. If shes trying to be vindictive that will piss her off to no end that your glad she found someone else, and if she wants a fight your not giving her one so she wont try it again.
And if its a rebound relationship, thats her choice. Just dont show her any sign of jealusy and ask her how her new man is when she calls, and then reply thats great.
Trust me being nice is the way to go here, no matter how much you have to bite your tongue and hold your feelings. If shes being vindictive or mean, it will piss her off so much that your nice. And if shes really just trying to be friends with you, and tell you about her life. Then your doing the best thing for your friendship
2007-03-25 03:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok! So you and this girl date for three years right? And yall have been broken up for about three months? When it is a situation like this, more than likely she is calling you to tell you she's got a new man in her life because she wants you to fight for her! Not only because she spent three years of her life for you, but because taht's a female for you! But in other cases she is trying to make you jealous and show that she can live on her own without! Now i know that sounds kinda harsh but it's relaly not! lol! that's least likely to happen!
2007-03-25 03:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by >- C-Baby -< 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're one of the closest friends she's got! And she hasn't been able to draw the line between friend and ex boyfriend. I can tell you that if me and my wife broke up, I would NEVER call her up to tell her that I am seeing somebody exclusively. Unless I wanted to see how upset she got, which would tell me how much she still cares!
2007-03-25 03:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you would know if she's the vindictive type. She may just be being thoughtful, just to let you know. Depends on who broke up and why.
2007-03-25 03:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said she is your "ex" right? Well, tell her you wish her good luck, tell her not to communicate with you anymore and you my dear man should finally move on. It is time. Don't hang on to her emotionally as you will never be able to maintain another relationship. Just let her go.
2007-03-25 09:03:30 · answer #6 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause she is a piece of crap.....getting back at you and making you feel bad. FEEL glad you are out of the misery. Women and their games.
2007-03-25 03:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is telling you she has moved on but you didnot and trying to hang around!
2007-03-25 03:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only she knows the answer to that.
2007-03-25 02:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by margarita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could just be a consideration thing, so you dont hear it from someone else
2007-03-25 03:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋