If your kids are being bullied at school have you?

Question

Ever contacted the parents of the kid doing the bullying and what was the outcome?

Answer 1

Talk to the school principal first and let him/her contact the parents.

Answer 2

As a teacher, I often don't know its happening until the parents clue me in. Kids often think they'll get in trouble for teling or th ullying gets worse, but when the bullies know that the teacher is on to them, it often stops and lets me keep an eye on the situation more closely. Don't bypass the teacher thinking they're not solving the problem. Chances are they don't know its a problem in the first place. Parents often forget that we have 20 something little ones and while their kid is the most important to them, our job is not to focus 100% on that one kid. Now does that mean we don't care about each child individually? Not at all. You kids teacher doesn't want them to be bullied any more than you do and will try their best to stop the situation. I would feel offended if a parent didn't let me know and went straight to the other parent.

Answer 3

I was bullied at school and it was not fun!!!!!!

Sometimes the teachers see what is happening, sometimes not. Tell your child to tell the teacher, not in front of the class, but as soon as possible. After school go over the situation with your child and set up a meeting with you, the teacher and principle. Keep your cool and discuss the matter as calmly as possible. Insist on another appointment with you and the parents of the bully, once again with the teacher and principle.

Our children deserve to be in a school that really cares about them and has zero tolerance with bullies. These children not only threaten our kids but are a threat to themselves. Parents are the best advocates for their children and their safety is the responsibility of everyone at school.

Ask everyday what is going on at school and if the bullies are still at it, write a detailed letter send a certified, return receipt letter to the principle's office with a copy to the area's education superintendent. They will realize how serious this situation is and remind them that this is now the SECOND time it is happening since the last meeting. Your child is worth every step you take to stop this behavior, no matter how high the ranks you have to go!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

No, but a mother I saw later on a field trip said that she so wished I had.
Depends on the parents. Some will be horrified and make their kids quit it. I would bet the worst bullies, however, have the parents who would not do a thing to their kid in response to the info, and might even go after you. Or their kid would ratchet up the abuse.
You could do it as part of the whole picture which includes going to the school, etc. But you know, if the bullying is widespread, I would get my kid out of that school. Sometimes you just cannot "fight city hall".

Answer 5

No, because I didn't have enough information to do so and I knew the school system wouldn't be helpful.

Here's the problem, though. Usually, bullies aren't getting something they need at home. Sometimes they come from "hands on" parents (and I don't just mean overly involved). So either you run the risk of getting the kid beaten, or the uninvolved parent shrugs and lets his little hellion continue.

Always make it the school system's problem. Put them on actual notice, and then they are on the hook for doing something about it.

Answer 6

Been there long ago. First I found out some about the parents and it turned out that they were bullies themselves. Real tough clan. It ended up that several of the kids got together with a little help and beat the hell out of the kid one day. The parents started their buyllying and us parents faced them as a group. No more problems with that family.

Answer 7

I haven't, but if the principal of the school can't handle it, and deal with the problem(or if the bully keeps bullying when "nobody knows"...), then I would give his/her parents a call and don't leave a message for them if they aren't home... i know someone's parents who did that and they ended up getting smothered the next day because they were "chickens/babies" because they needed their parents to help them with their problems at school... Hope it helps... Good Luck

Answer 8

Well, parents like to be in denial about how bad their children can be. So definitely talk to the principal first. They will try and look into the situation better than anyone else. Many times the teachers are completely oblivious to this sort of thing. This is why I'm going to be sending my kid to private school. If you are paying for it, this stuff gets handled quicker.

Answer 9

No, first contact their teacher and/or principal. Have the principal arrange a meeting with the parents and sit down and discuss how to stop their child from bullying others.

Answer 10

Teach your kid to fight. Seriously.

Contacting the parents won't do any good at all. If the parents punish their little bully kid, that bully is just going to make it worse for your kid later on.

The ONLY way to deal with a bully is to stand up to them.

My kid, who is very slight framed, had two bullies constantly bothering him, poking him, punching him when adults were not looking.

Contacting the parents ( through the school ) did nothing to help the situation, in fact it made it worse. So I taught my kid how to punch. I taught him to aim six inches beyond what he is trying to hit and I told him that because the adults could not deal with the situation it was now up to him.

The next time one of those little monsters punched him, he punched back, as instructed, as hard as he could.

That was a year a go, and not ONE kid has tried to bully my kid since.

Remember it is important to instruct your child that he is NEVER to hit anyone who didn't hit him first. Remind him how it felt to be bullied and that being a bully is not something that is allowed in your family. He is therefore to defend himself and leave it at that. If you do not talk with your child first then you can possibly create a bully instead of teaching your kid how to deal with one.

NOTE: This only works for male bullies. female bullies are a different story entirely as they cannot be stopped. Female bullies use gossip and ridicule primarily and any attempt to end it only makes it worse. To my knowledge there is no known cure for a female bully.

Answer 11

No,but it sounds like the best option in that situation. Who else can you go to? Surely not the kids themselves,directly. And better the parents than teachers or anything.

If your kid is young,teach him/her to stand up for him/herself too. And on the subject,make sure you sort things out with him/her before you sort things out with other people's kids.

Speaking as a 14 year old homeschooler,bullying sounds freaking outrageous,and I don't know how anyone can stand for it if it's as bad as it sounds.