Im asian, my bf is a white guy, he is a lot older than me, I know he wants to marry me very much. I always hate to see old western men taking advantage of young asian woman, and I think he is one of them. So in the 2 years, I pretended that I would marry him so he got 4 marriage papers and tried to marry me for 4 times, once in his country 3 times in my country. I always made him believe that its not my fault of not getting married, it was bcos of something else. Now he is planning to fly here for another try, he said he is exhausted, but he stills wants to get it done. I hate him bcos he took my virginity by seducing me. But now, Im very unhappy, I have very intense feeling for him. I dragged on for this long, and I saw him got hurt. Maybe he is not that bad as I thought, maybe he loves me 2. I get hurt 2. I am mean, right?
2007-03-25 02:17:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yoyu sound confused
I think you should wait a bit and not be rushed into marrying anyone
Wait a few years and try and cool things off with this guy
If you still feel the same in 2 years then you can go ahead but right now you are in a poistion where you will marry for the wrong reasons and end up unhappy and maybe even divorced with kids
2007-03-25 02:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you mean? Ha - that would be a nice way of putting it. You are the personification of how evil and cruel women can be. You don't deserve this guy and you should be staying in your own third world asian country.
You hate seeing western men taking advantage of young asian women yet you lost your virginity to him? That makes you like all the rest. Most from YOUR world are probably seducing western men to get out of your country.
2007-03-25 09:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought is that this is nonsense. Then I hope that it is nonsense.
Lady, to be honest, there is nothing too bad for you. To be honest, no, you should not marry this man. He deserves far better then you could ever possibly be. For if you married him, you would still be you, and no one else deserves that.
You simply sound like the typical female. No morals. Never is anything their fault. Never care to act horribly to others in order to get what they want, yet think if someone looks wrongly at them, it should be a crime.
At least we can be thankful that you will probably stay in your country instead of being here. Hey, we have enough like you here already.
2007-03-25 09:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen this from both sides of the coin.
My cousin married a Thai girl (not much younger than him, may I add) and once she came over from Thailand she started sleeping around and ran off with her boss, leaving him with thier baby.
My ex-husbands brother married a Balinese girl and they have a child. He comes back here to Australia and works for a year and complains that she spends all his money. He only goes back to see them once a year at christmas time. He won't bring her over because he doesn't trust her... which leads me to wonder why he married her in the first place.
My sister's former neighbour, in his 60's, married an asian girl young enough to be his granddaughter. He was a perfect gentleman until she came over and then he beat her senseless on a regular basis. She was so afraid of him and of being left homeless that she refused to press charges, despite my sister "rescuing" her a number of times and telling her she could live at her place.
One of my dad's friends went to Thailand as a missionary and met a single mother who was working as a prostitute to support herself and her son. They are still happily married (almost 20 years now).
By leading this man on, you are being decietful. Still, you are young and he knows he took your virginity, you are a trophy to him. Tell him you have changed your mind and no longer want to marry him. He should have taken the previous 4 times as a sign that it was not going to work out.
In future, if you don't like the thought of old western men taking advantage of young asian women, don't go out with them. Don't associate with them. Don't go near them. Find yourself a nice young asian man to marry.
2007-03-25 10:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is the matter with you. You must be kidding me. Marriage is not a game. Get a life. Unless you were raped by this guy or were under age, he did not take your virginity. You gave it. Honey you need to grow up. Start by being honest with yourself and him. It is obvious you have no clue what you want in life. Go figure that out first and then consider taking on a life partner.
http://www.predator-awareness.com/
2007-03-25 09:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't the Asian learn to tell the truth but lie and lie and look as what you had done, make a mess out of your life and his life too, grown up and be a women.
2007-03-25 09:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like he wants to take advantage of you. He wants to marry you four times. He doesn't sound bad to me.
2007-03-25 09:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely you are mean. You are taking advantage of his love for you.
2007-03-25 09:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by apple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think YOU are taking advantage of him.
2007-03-25 09:21:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
typical self centered woman thats all.
2007-03-25 09:23:33 · answer #10 · answered by SimpleMan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋