How many of you belive in partner swapping?

Question

Well i haven't tried this but i would like to know from you guys that how much fun it is,and whats your experience in this.

Answer 1

Why don't you try asking women how they feel about it? Men and women are wired differently when it comes to sex and the sooner that is accepted the easier it is to understand and evaluate answers.

I really don't "get" the interest in swapping partners - no more than I would understand communal toothbrushes. Ooooo, something new and different ---- a different body; a different set of breasts; a different penis; a different tongue... so what ? Is there going to be a different intimacy? No - there's going to be no intimacy at all. Just an isolated sweat from a different person. Different caring? No - just some unexplored territory that you think may be more exciting. But you are just gonna be plowed by some farmer uninterested in what you have to offer besides the furrow.

Yippee.

Partner swapping just takes everyone involved in it down to a base level - no commitment, no caring, no future, no past, ho hope, no thought, no love. It's "hooking up" for the married culture - and hooking up is only serving to - ultimately - rob those involved of the ability to care, connect and commit.

So if you want to simply get off and debase yourself at the same time, it may be the thing for you. If, on the other hand, you hope to become an intact human being in a fulfilling relationship with your partner, then I suggest you turn toward each other rather than away from each other and get some counseling so you two can turn your intimate life together into one that is far more compelling than "swapping."

Answer 2

I could not be more against partner swapping. I think that having a spouse is the most wonderful thing in the world. I do not see that I would gain anything from the experience except some primeval physical gratification for at most a few minutes. I would never be willing to share the body of the woman I love with another. The idea of doing so makes me sick and is contrary to everything I believe.

Answer 3

I've been in both normal and open relationships. Each has it's pros and cons. It's all about what works for you and your partner.

Partner swapping relationships offer excitement and a way to fulfill sexual fantasies. But has two major downsides. One is if you and your partner aren't on the same page with the boundaries of it then you will destroy the relationship with jealousy issues. (In the past this happened to me with a girl. We had no clear guidelines as to what our open relationship meant and I slept w/ a girl without her. It was not pretty.) Secondly it can lead to being Jaded. If you fulfill every fantasy what is there left to fantasize about? You tend to get bored with it.

In a monogamous relationship you don't get the high level of excitement but you can have a higher level of fulfillment. If you communicate needs to each other openly and honestly the level of intimacy and sexual pleasure can lead to truly mind-blowing orgasm. This isn't "you suck in bed". It's more like "Honey, I've always wanted you to (enter you preference) when we make love." Remember it has to be specific. If you want something say it exactly too hard, too slow, too deep, not enough tongue, whatever it is.

Comparing the two I've found that monogamy with the right person is 1000X's better both emotionally and sexually.

Answer 4

This is just one of those things that's not for everybody. No couple should attempt it unless they feel their relationship is rock-solid and not prone to negative emotions such as jealousy, bad self-image or performance anxiety. No couple should attempt it thinking it will "solve" some problem in their relationship.

That said, there are many couples that go through an "experimental" phase in their relationship, and then just return to more "normal" patterns of monogamy.

Many couples enjoy realizing the fantasy of seeing their partner with another person or experiencing a bisexual moment. There are things that are a lot more "kinky" in life than merely inviting another couple into your relationship.

What I find ironic and hypocritical is that some folks will pontificate about the "sanctity" of marriage; about how "wrong" it is to have mutually agreed extramarital fun, but they apparently have NO problem with people gambling with their life savings.

Apparently, it's more a matter of the "stakes" than the "odds," as it's socially acceptable to lose large sums of money in casinos, but horrible for a couple to take "chances" with their relationship.

Life itself is a constant gamble in many ways, as is marriage itself.

Each couple has to do it's own "risk assessment."

Answer 5

I do not believe in it or condone it in any way as to me this is wrong and immoral to do so. You are also asking for trouble by doing this like STD's and unwanted pregnancies and things like that. Not worth it if you ask me. It may be fun for a short time to some people and couples BUT the consecquences will be alot harder to handle and live with down the road and then you will not be having fun or a good time then. It will come around to bite you in the butt.

Answer 6

It a big secret in the suburbs. Swinger are all over the internet. Marriage is boring, and then the topic of a open marriage comes up. Most low self esteeem women will want to please there man, instead of getting a divorce. It the future twist to a long term relationship. I think it a deal breaker, and the practice is wrong. Do the wild thing before you settle down....I hope more people would think with there heads not there penis...when they grow up.

Answer 7

I would be concerned that my partner might find the swap more appealing and forget about me. I'd also be concerned with std's. Furthermore, I wouldn't want to explain myself to my maker about this decision one day when that day comes.

Answer 8

I find it amusing that the opinions of alot are "it's great if your marriage is rock solid"...what the hell??
BECAUSE we are rock solid and so in love with each other we could never share one another with someone else.This is why this world is going down fast.

Answer 9

If you're in love with someone, then you don't want to share them with anyone else. I personally couldn't handle it as the jealousy would be overwhelming.

Answer 10

partner swapping is the way to go!