I have three children all grown...31, 28 & 21.
2007-03-25 02:05:46 · 11 answers · asked by nenohandler 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At that age, kids are judgmental about their parents. I don't know how recently your divorce was... but if its less then a year, I would wait.
If your kids understand why you got the divorce and was all for it and want you to move on with your life, you can tell them now.
2007-03-25 02:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately give it time-though your children are grown, if you are RECENTLY divorced, it can still be hard on them to accept you with another person other than your ex. Depending on how long you have been divorced, I would take it very slow. From personal experience, I always resented my mom and dad from moving on so fast and I HATED their new spouses. It just seemed to happen too fastand it was amazing to me how they could just "forget" the love that they shared and move on with someone else so quickly. I know you get lonely and can't live your life alone, but for the children's sake, you don't have to introduce them right away-if you do it too soon, they will probably resent your new love.
2007-03-25 09:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by Racheal B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't introduce them unless you're sure it's going to be a long-term relationship. Even though your children are grown adults now, it can be confusing and awkward if your new love might not be a serious long-term prospect.
If you are sure, invite them over to dinner, but tell them on the phone first that you met someone special that you would like them to meet. Let them know you love them and it matters to you that they know the person that has made you happy.
2007-03-25 09:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known this "new love"? If less than 3 months, I would hold off until you have known him longer. On the other hand, your kids are grown enough to handle a straightforward approach.
2007-03-25 09:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by J W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your children are all grown adults and I am sure they all have dated and know that single adults date and have relationships. Let them come around in their own time to meet your new love and don't feel bad that you want to enjoy your life.
2007-03-25 10:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by Trisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are grown then let them come around and mee your new love in their own time and own way. Do not force them to meet let it be natural and they will come around when they are ready to meet your new person. Good luck to you. Give them time to adjust to this first and do not push anything on them.
2007-03-25 09:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wait, its your life and happiness, your children are all grown up and should understand. everyone needs someone no matter what age you are. enjoy and live your life for you and no one else.
2007-03-25 09:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are wrestling with it perhaps it is not the right time. Sounds like you have your own struggle going on. Timing is everything. When you are ready you will know it.
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2007-03-25 09:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your children are adults.
of course they know that you will be or are dating again.
be cool about it...be casual..
just introduce your new friend as just that..a friend.
have respect for your children....so....
in your children's presence..no demonstrative hugging or kissing your new love...save that for when the two of you are alone..
2007-03-25 09:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by manhattanmaryanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would not introduce them until you are absolutely positive it is going to work out between the two of you
2007-03-25 09:12:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋