fair?I can't go out clubbing with my girls,I can't talk to any of my exes and he wants me to always let him know where I'll be.Did I mention that he won't sleep with me and doesn't do all those little romantic things he used to do?He used to treat me like a princess and now I feel like a ciminal.We've been together for 3 years and I only cheated that one time and got caught.He says I can't work on earning his trust back under any other conditions. Is this fair?He's never been abusive in any way shape or form.Like I said,he used ot treat me like a princess and before I was allowed to do everything I'm not right now.
2007-03-25 01:51:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
it is over, you are a ****, and you sleep with the one person that would be the last person who you should have been with, out side of his dad
end it, move on, you messed it up and he doesnt owe you anything also now he donest have a best friend any more
2007-03-25 01:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by bkbarile 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. Trust me. I know you love her, but believe me when i say this, she doesn't truly love you. I once had the chance to cheat on my boyfriend, and i turned it down. If she can cheat even once, let alone 5 times, there's no doubt she'll do it again. And with the relationship being long distance, i can almost guarantee you that she will. I'm sorry but i'm being brutally honest because i've been cheated on and it hurts like hell, but staying with the person and having it happen again hurts 10x as much. You need to learn to be independent. I had to be independent after a guy i loved A LOT cheated on me, but i'm so glad i didn't take him back because i found the love of my life who treats me with so much respect that it's crazy, he doesn't even talk to other girls.. You need to leave her, for good, don't even be friends with her, that'll just hurt you more. Girls like her aren't girlfriend material, and you deserve so much better, but if you stay with her, you won't find the amazing girl that's probably waiting for you to come and find her.
2016-03-29 03:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it that you have now twisted the facts around to convince yourself that YOU are the victim. You cheated on him, remember? You no longer deserve to be treated like a Princess, you deserve to be thrown out with the trash. You must have some loveable traits for him to even stay with you.
What you did to him will take a long time to heal, either accept that and wait, or reject it and move on. Good Luck.
What you did is wrong, but we all make mistakes and sometimes have to suffer the consequences. Good Luck To You.
2007-03-25 12:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very obvious why he's doing that. If you cheat on someone (for example, your boyfriend/girlfriend), I don't even think they should give you another chance. But he was nice enough to give you another one, for he doesn't want to lose you. And in return, you should gain back his trust by doing what he says for a little while, before you talk to him boy/girl, girl/boy. Also, like I mentioned, he gave you another chance with his best friend. But I really think he loves you if he kept you after you cheated on him. And yes, I do think it's fair. That is how you regain trust and love from someone you care about.
2007-03-25 02:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by Haku Belmont 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should have dumped you when he found out that you had cheated on him.
I would have!
And chances are excellent that he will dump you when he comes to the conclusion that you are not worth keeping company with.
"Better to have Loved and Lost - than to live with the Psycho for the rest of your life!"
Life is too short to be with people who you do not trust or have any faith in.
And you will move on too when you realize it is just not worth the time and effort trying to rebuild any trust with this man. - because you can't!
2007-03-25 02:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is totally fair. ask yourself this: would you rather be going through what you are going through or would you rather he cheated with YOUR best friend? i'm going to assume you said the former. that being said, you are very lucky he gave you another chance and trust takes a while to build. so while you're upset bc you can't talk to your exes or go clubbing, he has to deal with the fact that he was betrayed by two people he really cares about. i would say you got off light....
2007-03-25 02:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jay 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think that is totally understandable.
he obviously loves you if he's willing to give you a second chance and doesn't want to be hurt again. clearly he doesn't trust you, and really, why should he as you've already broken his trust. so it will no doubt take a long time for that trust to be mended.
maybe, instead of thinking about all the ways he used to treat you and no longer does; why not think about all the nice ways you could treat him and make him feel like he is special to you again. that's what he needs; to feel that he is specail to you and that you aren't going to cheat again.
so, you be the one to do the nice things and treat him like he's your one and only. he certainly deserves it!!
2007-03-25 02:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
seriously, i think its over. the whole cheating on him with best friend? cmon- you know that thats simply not done. cause whether you like it or not, you ruined their friendship, and best friends are hard to find.
it wont be over though if you change your ways. you have to ask yourself, "do i really love him?" and take a mnute to think about that. if you answer no, break up wih him. if you answer yes, then ask yourself, "would i do anything for him?" if you say no, then leave him. if you say yes, then let him treat you like a criminal on parol.
so yes, he is being fair. i think he really loves you so give him and his method a chance
2007-03-25 02:06:50 · answer #8 · answered by labyrinth_solved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he your husband or boyfriend? He must really love you to take you back after cheating. Just talk to him. Ask him the things that you want to know. And ask him if there would be any way possible if you could make it up to him? How would he forgive you? It just needs time. Talk to him, it'll be worth it in the end.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 01:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by K 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can talk with him , be brutally honest so he has a view of the way your mind actually ticks but otherwise you stuffed up and if he ever trusts you again is up to his processes. If you want his trust again you need to accept HIS process.
2007-03-25 02:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by jess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋