do you really think that a woman loses her identity after marriage & its her husband to whom she has to listen

Answer 1

NO i do not feel that a woman loses her own identity at all.... Her husband should not even want or ask her to do this. They should listen to and respect each other. Her husband is not the boss or head honcho in this case. Yes she needs to honor and respect him BUT he should love and cherish her and treat her with respect as well. This is no way takes away her identity and makes her someone different. The man should not lose his identity when he marries either. They both should become husband and wife and honor and love each other and become one flesh and better people for it. A woman does not lose her identity or personality when she marries and should not even be expected to. If the husband truley loves her then he should have loved her for how she was and accepts her for who she is after marriage as well. Love is unconditional and unselfish.

Answer 2

Are you an Indian. If so, I see the reason why you are asking this question. In a typical Indian set up (which is changing by the day now), a woman gets married and comes to her husband/ in laws house. Everything in the new set up, is new for the wife. For the husband, it is only the wife that is new. He has his own environment, own friends, own colleagues etc etc etc....
So it is but natural to have a temporary feeling of loss of identity. Because everything around her relates to her husband.
Having said that, it depends both on the husband and the wife, how they develop their relationship. The MCP age, to say the least is dying. Women are more aware of their requirements and self esteem. No she does not have to listen to her husband. Both have to listen to each other to have a healthy married life.
So, don't be too submissive. At the same time, just for the sake of women's lib...... don't ruin your marriage. Take a balanced and moderate approach towards life.... and the feeling of "Identity Loss" would never arise.

Answer 3

Definitely, most women do loose their identity after marriage, especially in military life. Being in military you use your husband's SSN, his work place, his ranks and a few more. During get together, the wife will be introduce as the wife of....
All the things that a wife do like buying, renting, borrowing, medical, insurance, has to be the husbands back ground not the women's. The only thing that we can use, ( I'm one f military wives) are our driver license when we drive.
In a civilian world at least we can write a checking account , pay rent, buy, even insurance under our identity not the husbands..........

Answer 4

No, she is always an individual person. And of course, she should always be so. She is a functioning, thinking, human being isnt she?

Yes, the husband is the head of the house and family. And no, that isnt a matter of view or like or anything else. It is just like air. Natural, normal and how it is. Did God not institute a chain of command so to speak, in relationships, families, in government, etc? In a marriage, both are suppose to be trying to do what is best for the FAMILY, so they should work together, listen and advise one another with that same goal in mind.

Answer 5

It depends on the relationship. I've heard that women lose their identities after marriage. Hopefully the husband is understanding and caring and gives his wife the independence and space she needs to keep her identity. This isn't the 1800's, women don't have to listen to their husbands as though they were their fathers...its the 21st century for crying out loud! Relationships are 50/50!

Answer 6

A lady after marriage will be known from his husbands identity but she can create her own identity in my opinion only when she is a working women else she will be a home maker and what is bad about that.
For that a women should be educated and should stand on her own feets and you will never, never loses your identity.
But being a housewife it will be.
As you will have to ask for small small things from your husband surely he will behave like a superior in relationships.

Answer 7

Actually women in our indian society tend to forget their identity after marriage. They dont loose it. They should be more concern about their own identity. A woman should remember that who she is. But it does not mean that she should always overhear her husband's words. If it is right then she can listen to it. But she has to have her own opinion also.

Answer 8

In Islamic marriages, wife never loses her identity and always keeps up her individuality for all & each act or omission; she may obey to her husband if unrestricted by her religion Islam. Both spouses shall respect and fulfill just needs of each other.

Answer 9

No not at all u r living in modern age where both men and women r very liberal. It is not as if he his the headmaster to whom u have to listen it is a partnership everything is done mutually all decisions taken together and it is for u to create this kind of environment where all issues have to be discussed and resolved leading to win-win situation. Be an active partner and just sleeping partner{pun}

Answer 10

i think her identity changes, she is half of a partnership rather than being the separate entity she was before, of course this changes things, but identity is not lost. Of course a husbands wishes should be listened to, but its a 2 way street, he should also listen to her and between them come to decisions and compromises