This is for lesbians only?

Question

If you are happy with your significant other, how many of you would want a man in bed with you? I am not a lesbian but I do have friends that are. This is what my boyfriend's desires, to have more than one woman in bed with him and to justify his reasoning, he uses the bible to try to prove his authority on this issue which is nonsense. He's just not completely happy with me, wouldn't you think? Now if I were a lesbian, I wouldn't need a man now would I? And from what I gather, my friends who are are quite content in all ways. And all of them have had a man on a one to one.

Now he just added the comment that 2 woman in bed with him aren't always lesbians, which is true, however they are still bisexual. Now wouldn't you agree to that?

I can't be the other woman while in bed with him. Nor am I allowed to have 2 men in bed with me, him being one of them. He just couldn't deal with the thought never mind the action. He said he'd leave me. Isn't that a double standard? He gets so aroused if I'm willing to give into his fantasy. It's about the only way I can get his attention in bed.

Answer 1

LESBIANS DO NOT WANT MEN IN BED. Trust me on this - I have been a lesbian for ALL 37 years of my life and I don't want any sausage. Most lesbians I've met have already tried men, but the men just couldn't ring the bell (heart, soul, sex...)

What your man seeks is BISEXUAL WOMEN. And if YOU are ok with that, then go for it. Just remember that you said it's the only thing arousing him and getting his attention these days. YOU should be ENOUGH for your own man in bed. Honey, it IS a double standard if he wants 2 women but doesn't want you to have 2 men if you want!! What a controlling pig. I'm sorry, but I seriously hope that you do NOT NOT NOT accommodate this chauvanistic OINK. He needs a roll in the mud, not another roll in the hay. Wait until the day he insists on bringing home another man for himself...

Answer 2

[to justify his reasoning, he uses the bible to try to prove his authority on this issue]

I'm a man, therefore not a lesbian, but was intrigued by the fact that your boyfriend would use the Bible to prove his point. I'm glad you recognize that as nonsense because he could just as easily use the Bible to justify incest or even harming or killing somebody he doesn't like. This is like seeing a weapon in the hands of a small child. I'm sure your boyfriend wouldn't do anything like that, but you might consider seeking a Christian Bible believing church in your area that has a women's group you could join. If they are indeed the loving group that they should be, you might find your answers there. Hope that helps.

Answer 3

You should talk about this with him more in depth, first of all. Second, you two are in a relationship - not with anyone else. He shouldn't be wanting anyone else in bed but you - and you have to let him know that - especially if he doesn't allow you to have two men in bed. That's ridiculous! Besides, I'm guessing since your straight, you would be uncomfortable with the whole idea in the first place, right? Just tell him how you feel, and he has to understand - if he doesn't, then you deserve way better than him.

Answer 4

Just tell him becareful what u wish for..too many men out there have found out that making a fantasy become a reality has consequences..chances are u might fall for this other girl or she might be a better lover and it would definetly wound his male ego..now u don't want that to happen..str8 men are very sensitive when it comes to how much a better lover, bigger hot dog, and mad bedroom moves..he wants to be the king of his dominion..don't open a can of worms if you are not ready for the mess..

Answer 5

not many REAL lesbians would want a man in bed with them, you might get the odd couple that will do it just to tease, personally i dont need no man.

dont be afraid of his desire, its not neccesarily him not being contempt with you its every guys fanatsie to have a lesbian, but its never gonna happen, and when guys do claim they have most likely that girl was straight and seeking the attention, or bi sexual.

but your not gonna find two lesbians prepared to jump into bed with a guy unless one is planning to concieve!, youve got better chances of seeking out a bi female couple. and not even a couple....y cant u be the other woman in that bed?

Answer 6

If you're not comfortable with it, don't do it. I know no place in the bible that says he should be sleeping with one woman before marriage, let alone two (not calling you a bad person for sleeping with him). All of his justifications are to convince you to play into his fantasy. You should make it clear that you don't want to.

Answer 7

From your question and the additions, yes he is wanting that double standard. He wants his cake and eat it too........and you're just supposed to take what he only gives you. Doesn't sound like a relationship, it sounds like free love or whatever, him cheating and you stay behind to take what is left.
It sounds like, you need to let him lose and let him sow his wild oats and you go on to do the same!
Do what you think it right for YOU! Not him, YOU!

Answer 8

Take a walk on the wildside babe! Find a woman and exclude him! Maybe even join me and my companion...now that would be HOT.

Seriously though, he doesn't respect you if he's not willing to accomodate your needs as well.

Answer 9

I'm not sure if my late partner would laugh at the idea or try to explain to you why there is no chance of it.
I need a laugh and am doing so.
Best wishes, rose P.

Answer 10

OK. I like my men to wear panties. Maybe ask him to do that for you before you get two girls in a bed. Maybe find a good looking young transvestite.