we were goin out for more than 3 months...she used to hate when i first told her i like her...then now i kinda joke her, that maybe she still hates me..but i know she loves me now...past is past..last week i joked and said, if you really love me tell your parents..i know its gonna be hard for her because her parents surely will disagree with it..THEN suddenly she told her mum about us..then like since she told her mum, her mum cries everyday about the fact that she's goin out with me...i do really love my gf, but i hate the fact that she's in bad terms with her mum because of our relationship...what should i do?
2007-03-25 00:59:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i actually gave her mother an email saying that im serious..and that i dont have any bad intentions for her daughter...i also included the fact that i know that her priority is her studies and that her parents is still more important than me...i am just really concerned for my gf..i know she hates having problems with her parents...
2007-03-25 01:17:24 · update #1
we are in singapore
2007-03-25 11:25:11 · update #2
i already gave the PFLAG and the letter... it ended up so bad..well i guess its not my mistake anymore...its her mum who doesnt really wanted it... what happened now is that her mum wanted her to be 18 first...oh yeah i didnt say were only 16...so yeah...her mum wants us to be just friends...
2007-03-28 12:06:08 · update #3
Contact PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays). These are good people and can maybe help your girlfriends mother with her problems. Above all --remember that you and your girlfriend are not the one with the problem about homosexuality...your girlfriend's mother is the one with the problem. Give PFLAG a chance...they have many resources and will not force you into anything.
2007-03-25 01:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her and her parents the contact information for a PFLAG chapter in your area. Talk to them about their concerns. Be open and honest. Show maturity and be there for her through this. Make sure you talk to her about how she's holding up and what's going through her mind. Good luck.
2007-03-25 11:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel like its your fault, first of all. This is something I think her parents need to deal with on their own. It sounds like you did everything possible to help her and her parents, so good job. But, they are just confused and in shock, probably. If they love their daughter, they will come around and realize that her sexuality is a part of her that they have to accept. Don't worry - I'm sure after some time, they'll come around...
2007-03-25 08:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this pass, be strong and treat your girl friend better than you have treated her before. Don't get cross with the mother just let her take her time.
2007-03-25 08:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by scareymiss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
care for ur gf as much as u can
when her mother sees you treating her daughter well, she may come to realise that it's not so bad
hope it works out :)
2007-03-25 08:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋