What do you think? The husband has more say becasue he brings in the money. Wife is a stay at home mom.?

Answer 1

Maryann, your husband brings home a check and thanks to your contribution to the partnership, it is money that goes in the bank.

Tally up what daycare and a housekeeper costs weekly. Hand him a bill. I bet it's more than what he makes in a week.

Your contribution financially to the partnership is substantial, not to mention your sacrifice of being out of the workforce.

Your man is focusing finacially solely on the paper his paycheck is written on. He does not consider the partnership as a whole. Like it or not, there are two of you making this work and it all adds up to dollars saved and dollars spent.

When you discuss this with him, say your part with Respect. Breathe, know what you want to say and say it calmly and factually. And then let it drop. He may not get the concept at first. Give him some time to re-focus. Part of the problem is a mental image he has of what he is as a husband and provider. That doesn't change overnite. Reinforce the stregnths in his image, tell him he's a good provider, he uses a hammer well, how good he looks in that black sweatshirt....Then see how it goes.

Answer 2

This should be a 50/50 team effort with everyone doing there own very important parts of making the family work. Unfortunately it isn't always going to be this way. Sometimes men like the idea of "taking care" of their family and they are blind to the fact that they are also being taken care of. They feel that there income is what makes the world go around and they could very simply do everything at home and work if they had too, so they should have more say. In these cases and whenever he slips up in the future you have to be assertive and point out that if you were not home all day he would have quite a few more responsibilities and if he thinks that would be fine show him by getting a job for a short while. Once he sees that he will have to help out with errands, cooking, his own laundry, maybe even the kids if you have them, because you are not there He will change his tune and want to give you more say in the relationship.

Answer 3

NO i do not feel that because he brings the money home that he has more say at all. The wife works very hard to be a stay at home mom and she does not ask for any money or pay for it. He should love and respect her for what she does and not look down on her for it and think that he is all that just because of it. Maybe she needs to get a job to prove to him that she has some say as well. He seems selfish and mean to me when it is his duty and job to love and support and provide for his wife and children. Everything should be 50/50 and the decisions made together.

Answer 4

I am a stay at home wife and I think that is ridiculous. Housework and caring for children is very time-consuming and stressful. I hear numberous times from my husband that he couldn't do what I did. I'm still in the mindset that his money is stickly his because he's the one that brings it in, but thankfully, I have a wonderful husband who insists that the money he makes it OURS. Reguardless of the money situation, money does not give one say-so over the other partner. Relationships should be 50/50!

Answer 5

The husband brings in the money, but the stay at home mother is the domestic engineer... without her, the everyday running of the household grinds to a halt.
It's like the wife who was so tired of her husband asking what she did all day, that one day she decided to stay in bed all day and do nothing. The husband came home and raced to the room in a panic yelling "the house has been turned upside down, what happened?" and the wife calmly replied "You know how you always ask what I do all day? Well, today I didn't do it."

If the husband still insists he has more right to make decisions, he needs his backside soundly kicked.

Answer 6

The husband and the wife is a team. Partners. None above the other. He brings in the money, but she prepares the meals, keep house, does groceries, does his laundry, look after the kids etc. etc.

If they communicate well enough, they both have 50/50 input in all decisions. Each should be prepared to meet the other half way.

Answer 7

I believe a husband and wife should work as a team in raising a family. Just because the mother does not receive a paycheck does not mean she does not work! She stays home, sacrificing her time to care for the home and children while the husband goes out to earn money. With this money, he could never, ever afford to pay the woman who stays home to care for his children and home. She is overworked and over looked.

Answer 8

Money is not a manipulation tool. Money's only function is to purchase. Your role as a stay at home mom is more vital than a wage earner. Decisions should be made together. Anybody can earn money. Not everybody can be a good parent. Do a good job and do not be manipulated by the wage earner.

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Answer 9

Your husband should have the final say in the household simply because of who he is, not because of what he does. Even if you brought in the most money, he should be the head of the household. That doesn't mean he shouldn't listen to you or take your opinion into consideration, but after all is said and done, he should have the final say.

I know this sounds really rough, but believe me, sweetheart, you have more influence that you'd ever realize on your husband by being submissive than by being rebellious.

Answer 10

no the man does not have more say, i see it this way,, the women hoome, careing for the house, an work just as hard,,,,, if she was not their, that mean you need to hire some one to clean cooik, an care for the kids,, so ,,i say leave the money out of the married ,an bring in under standing love, an let it be a 50/50 deal,, she got right too.