I had sex with my boyfriend and we both wanted it. I got everything ready - candles and everything. At first i told him to wait a bit because i felt a bit nervous. and he was ok then it was about 35 minutes later he got bored so i said ok go on with it. so we did it but he got rough with me. he scratched me a few times on my arms and shoulders and made me bleed quite a bit [girls you know wha i mean]. i told him to stop and he carried on for like 3 seconds then stopped. anyway i confronted him about it after..about him bein rough and he said that i told him once that i liked it rough. then he said i never told him to stop. i didn't tell him to stop at 1st because i wanted to have sex as much as he did but i didnt realise it was meant to be that rough? what should i do? by the way i don't plan to have sex with him again anytime soon
2007-03-25 00:53:42 · 6 answers · asked by TAMARA K 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
and we had a big argument after that and he said he'll break up with me if i don't shut up. and he said his other 'girls' didnt complain about it but then i said well why did they break up with you then and he said he was the 1 that ended it with them. but i can't keep having sex with him if he keeps scratching me. is this a normal part in sex?? scratchin?? maybe im fussin bout nothin
2007-03-25 00:57:24 · update #1
If he can't be considerate to your feelings, dump him. He is being selfish and abusive.
2007-03-25 03:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by aqx99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not fussin about nothing. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable for both of you. If anything causes you pain or makes you uncomfortable then DO NOT do it. If he cannot respect your feelings more than that he is totally selfish and doesn't deserve you. Good luck!!
2007-03-25 11:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by TNBelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question don't have sex with him again you wont feel like you can trust him anyway different people like sex different ways and you never said weather you did say you like if rough but it sounds to me like he only wanted sex from you because he would at least pretend to be happy to wait until you were really ready if he loved you , it doesn't sound like you were ready to have sex If you feel he violated your trust then your relationship is over. he doesn't sound very sorry either. I am sorry this happened to you if it was your first time . your better off without him.
2007-03-25 08:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by loopy loo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like it, then no it's not normal. Some people are into rough sex but it sounds like you know for sure that you are not.
Honestly, he sounds like a jerk and you can do a lot better than his inconsiderate butt. Dump him.
2007-03-25 13:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by Rayvin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him fast if you get married he will be abusive
2007-03-26 00:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by kittyqueen233 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound nice and he sounds nasty, i would end it asap and find someone who is kind like you
2007-03-25 08:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋