I really fancy this guy ( Hes not Gay) who i have been good friends with 4 a long time. Im only 15 but i really fancy him, sometimes when im not looking i see him checking me out. But when i turn around he looks the other way... :( What should i do?!!
2007-03-25 00:51:47 · 17 answers · asked by robishot4eva 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
(1) Does he know you are gay?
(2) Does he accept you as a friend?
If the answer to the above is yes ask him if he has ever had feelings towards another guy and judge his reaction, If he shows no sign leave the situation alone. Better to keep him as a friend than loose his friendship.
When you say he is checking you out...all guys and girls for that matter do this, even the straight guys at my rugby club makecomments about other guys bodies/build it doesnt mean that they want to sleep with them.
Find yourself a guy who IS gay its a lot less risky orcomplicated and considering they dont reproduce...there are alot about ........
2007-03-25 01:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Best way is to find out if he is gay. Obviously you wouldn't want to ask and plus even if you did, there is a chance of him lying. But that shouldn't put you off asking which way he swings. Just start a convo about us homosexuals by starting a question like 'did you hear about homosexual marriage being accepted in canada?' Thats one i proudly made to test my own friends. Haha. Anyways, ask him that and if he's against them he'll say yuck straight away and if he's cool with it he'd have a less expressive reaction. From there you can find out if he's gay or (by asking, depending on what he thinks about the question you just asked). Then if he is (trust me you won't find out that easily) then tell him you like him. If not, then learn to move because you'll fall for straight people all the time. They're the only people i've ever fallen for. But after a while you go numb to the one sided love pain. HAHA. Anyways good luck man!
2007-03-25 10:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Me Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not gay, you need to respect that. You may have a crush on him, but a straight guy will never reciprocate the kind of love you feel for him. If he is a good friend of yours, and knows you're gay, you may want to discuss this with him. But be ready for any reaction he may have. There are many gay men out there who could be more worthy of your love. Try to divert your feelings to them, than chase someone who doesn't swing your way.
2007-03-26 04:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this question is so similar to how i feel, i could have written it myself.
im 15, gay and in love with a guy at school
and what your saying is exactly what is happening to me.
does he know that your gay? cos thats what i did. the guy i like knows.
and are you sure he isnt gay? is there a chance that he may be bi?
get one of your friends who knows that your gay (this is exactly what i did, btw) and get them to ask him how he would feel if he got asked out by a bloke and would he be offended etc.
now if he says he wouldn't mind, tell him that you like him. i know its hard (i havent got round to doing this yet, lol) but try. get him on his own and away from distractions and other people.
and if he says he would mind, then im sorry, but you have got no choice other than to leave it. you're just gonna have to try and get over him. i know that this option will be just as hard as the first one, maybe even harder, but there is no point telling him if you know that he would be all bad about it, because then you'd just lose a friend.
I hope thats helps, and i will be trying this myself soon, lol
oh and good luck!
2007-03-26 04:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Monkey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he know you are gay? If yes, then just tell him you like him.
If he doesn't know you are gay then that makes things a little more tricky.
If he is a good friend though, you should be able to talk to him.
2007-03-27 09:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by lellylurve 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, have a look at this similar question:
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ArEt.2liJJE1BL_.mjqdf3VcLxV.?qid=20070323110616AA0Flbc
In my opinion I would say that if you know for sure he is straight then give up, although at 15 he probably hasn't made up his mind.
However, the fact he 'checks you out' then turns away when you look suggests some interest.
In conclusion I would say you just need to give it time and try to subtly move to conversation of sexuality and what he thinks of you and that should give you more info to work with.
2007-03-25 01:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure he's not gay or bi? If he's checking you out, then he's gay or bi! I told a guy at work I think he's cute, he is straight and we are still friends. You could tell him he's cute and see what happens. Good luck!
2007-03-25 04:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tread very carefully. If you know he's not gay he's probably not going to be over the moon if he finds out you have a crush on him. Don't rush into anything
2007-03-25 04:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by Graveyard Haunter 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old is he? Most young studs go through a period of sexual exploration and he may be in the same place as you.
Give him a hint and he may take it.
2007-03-25 01:21:07 · answer #9 · answered by dtedad-50 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. He's not gay. You are not going to convert him--it just doesn't happen. Settle for being good friends--and don't screw that up.
2007-03-25 01:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋