now i have a male friend who support me in this, but im afraid it may end up more than just friendship, he is also married, should i distance myself from him, he is such a nice guy,.and help me a lot,..pls. advice?
2007-03-25 00:48:21 · 12 answers · asked by icy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i understand that having someone listening & lean on are what you needed most. it eases the pain a lot better & healing will speed it up when you feel someone cares.However, bcuz of your current emotional state, its so easy to fall prey on another man who seems to give you nothing but support & understanding, who willingly listens & does anything to make you feel better. Ironically, this is what you needed most but if its becoming too good for comfort, draw the line or else you will be trap in another situation which will only add up to your miseries. Unless if you can clearly define your boundaries then continue to keep in touch with him. Also, draw strength from your little girl. Be strong for her. Do not add insult to injury by complicating matters should your friendship develop into more than that. Your needs & well being is important and so does your daughter, infact, she should come first before yours. Think more on surviving with the best intentions for both of you. (not only yourself)
God has done you a favor by allowing such separation to happen so that you can find happiness in due time & be with a guy whom you rightly deserve. Even the worst of circumstances that happens in our life happens for a reason. Taking them positively will give you a positive end result so be hopeful. Failures happen to all of us at any given time. What counts is not the fall, but how you rise from a fall and live to enjoy it.
2007-03-25 01:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not fall for this new guy and try to get help and counseling for how you are feeling and what you are going through first. You need help for this devestation that you are feeling. Yes you should distance yoruself from this guy as this would be a really bad situation for you to get into as he is married too and you do not want to cheat and break up a marriage and do the same thing to his marriage like your husband has just done to you and your marriage. Is your husband open to marriage counseling at all and does he still want you and the marriage or does he want out of the marriage? Is your husband remoresful and sorry for what he has done to you and this marriage or not? You need to be alone for a while and work on you and you need to start to heal from all of this and start to clear your head and think straight first before making and final decisions about your life and your marriage. This OTHER guy is not the answer though and you need to get away from him and steer clear now! DO NOT become the other woman!
2007-03-25 07:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Separation is a painful situation to deal with, and one can be very vulnerable at this stage in life, and having someone to lean on would be of great help in picking the pieces back and of moving in a fast track with such a nightmare. But, having someone to comfort with who also happens to be a family man is just risking your self to fall for someone who is married and, you're only opening your doors too to become somebody who ruins a beautiful home who was once like yours that left u feeling devastated.
The choice is all yours, God gave us the freedom to choose between right and wrong. I'm sure you cant afford to see a nice guy's relationship into a rocky situation coz of his kindness with you. God bless...
2007-03-25 09:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by !!!Rain!!! ! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you SERIOUSLY asking us what u should do? If I were in your situation(which I have been---except the "HYPOCRITICAL" part)I would be ashamed to ask this question. I am so annoyed and disgusted; by most of this worlds' morals. When I left and divorced my ex-husband(our son was almost 3--he is almost 11 now)because of infidelity;
Although it REALLY SUCKED...I did NOT have a sexual relationship during our 8 & half mth separation---because I did NOT want to be a hypocrite and be intimate w/ another man---until divorce was final. When I'm in a relationship; Not only is it NOT ok 4 my patner 2 be w/ anyone other than me.....It's also NOT ok 4 me 2 be w/ anyone other than him.
2007-03-25 08:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by shaylea29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that you are hurting and practically a single parent.
But, two wrongs don't make a right.
If you were devastated when your husband cheated on you, you shouldn't want to spread the misery to another family.
Stay strong. Be a model for your child.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 09:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, never, never get involved with a married man. Hello. You are devastated by your husband's cheating so why would you want to be a party to the same action against someone else.
http://www.predator-awareness.com/
2007-03-25 09:15:52 · answer #6 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance yourself from the married man, nothing good will come out of this. Deal with your marital problems yourself and know how to handle that cheating husband of yours.
2007-03-25 08:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may seem nice, but if you all start having feeling for each other than he is just like your husband, a cheat, think how it felt, you dont want to do that to someone else..... back off now before its to late
2007-03-25 08:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by NAYNAY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep distance with that guy! You should explain to him first,so he won't think that you're not happy with what he did for you!Take care of you and your daughter!:)
2007-03-25 09:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by sauvage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
justifying your actions are you, doesn't sound like devastation to me
2007-03-25 08:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by sofmatty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋