it seems like everytime i travel with my baby people give me looks all the time. even if she cries a little bit. i don't understand why people get annoyed so easily, i mean someone had to take care of them when they cried too. i get really bad anxiety before traveling alone with her bc of how i am treated. people aren't even helpful with luggage when they see you struggle with it, what is wrong with society?
2007-03-25 00:40:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Jessie, I'm sorry you feel that way. I do know from my time in the business world that business travelers under stress are almost inhuman in their behavior and reactions and many of them think they are entitled to abuse airline personnel and fellow passengers if something upsets or delays them.
Some advice: travel on Saturdays or Sundays, or mid-week, when there are less business people on your flight or train. Avoid Fridays like the plague! If possible, travel with someone who can help with your luggage, or tip a skycap or porter to deal with it for you. Bring toys and snacks for your child and let him/her nurse on a bottle or pacifier during takeoff and landing...that's when infants cry mostly because their ears hurt. Pack as much as you can in your checked luggage and limit your carryons to the necessities for the baby.
It isn't your fault the baby cries when he's uncomfortable or in a strange situation...or even out of his routine. Let the looks roll off and do your best as a mother.
2007-03-25 00:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never had any issues with babies myself, but traveling can be very stressful and the sound of a baby crying isn't exactly relaxing. Nobody likes to hear a baby cry. Don't take it personally. If your anxiety is that bad go to the doctor. There are many pills for anxiety. Your doctor will know what to prescribe.
2007-03-25 00:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is much wrong with society today and I always try to help those in need whether it be a single woman with a baby or anyone needing assistance.
To answer your question about crying babies, I know how it must make you feel to have to deal with that. You may feel that your child only cries a little, but a little to you can be a lot to someone else. People are stressed nowadays and any excessive noise can upset them, especially with the added stress of traveling. You need to try to understand others feelings as they need to understand yours. Do what you can to comfort your baby. Take toys, crackers, bottles... whatever helps your baby to stay calm at home will help to comfort him/her while you travel. However, being in a strange place, around strange people with strange noises and such will scare your baby.
To sum it up try to put yourself in the place of others when you travel, smile at other people when you see them looking at you and let them know you are doing what you can. That will help them understand what you're going through.
I hope that helps...
2007-03-25 00:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by capnemo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably they feel, like you have no control over your childs crying because they either was a quiet baby or grew up around quiet babies. I sometimes feel like some people should not startle, or have any loud sounds around thier kid until they are atleast 1. That way they learn to be as calm, and not so naughty. I've seen many parent who scream and blast up the radio, only making the child more drawn to making that much noise him/her self. Dont worry thats normal, and you should get used to that. Its all apart of growing up with your child.
2007-03-25 00:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by 2zero9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, to be totally honest - I don't even notice babies any more. I notice the little demon children - you know the ones - the ones who run amok screaming like there's no tomorrow. Because there are SO many out of control children that have NO rule and NO discipline, I think many people tend to lump ALL children into that group and that's why you get the dirty looks.
2007-03-25 01:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe some people, like myself, are just sensitive to loud noises...and a crying child just gets to them quicker than anything. It is not that they hate you or are trying to be mean to you, it is that they honestly have a condition in which loud sudden noises bother them mentally. Sometimes parents are not sensitive to this and just let the child cry or whine loudly. In an enclosed area such as a restaurant or an airplane, this can be multiplied. I used to have a few drinks and try to sleep or wear headphones to drown out the noise. Nowadays I take medicine to help me cope.
2007-03-25 00:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by kidshark 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A baby is a wonderful thing.
I have an adult son.
I would really rather sit next to a mother and baby than have my seat kicked from behind by a hyperactive 4 year old for 5 hours.
And I would help you with your luggage.
I'm just trying to be a nice guy.
2007-03-25 00:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never be mean to you but I would be less than stoked than to get stuck sitting next to an infant or a young child on a long flight. Flying sux to begin w but idea of having to listen to some kid fuss, smell thier poop, or deal w the constant up and downs for 5 + hours isnt fun to me.
2007-03-25 01:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly where your coming from. It seems that either they haven't got to that stage yet or they are too old to remember. I just say very loud comments and maybe ask the question that your thinking and see how they feel. You try to enjoy yourself though, make ga ga noises, laugh, say "no" when you need to and make oblivious to those onlookers. Happy travelling.
2007-03-25 00:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about what you have experienced. Personally, I love babies. Just ignore those rude people and enjoy your baby.
Congratulations and good luck!
2007-03-25 00:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋