My little disabled neighbor?

Question

Hello everyone. This story is about a friend of mine. Tell me what you know so I can help her.

She's a disabled young her down the block. She has been having a hard time living a normal life. She recently got qualified for SSI and is receiving her montlhy SSI paycheck. Unfortunately, her paycheck is very low. She is also qualified for medicaid... The problem is that her paycheck is small. All of her friends work more than $2,000 monthly, while she ( the disabled girl) gets something like $300 or $400. I am not quite sure... She has her phone bill, which I think is $60 per month. She lives with her parents and does not pay rent. But she has needs. I don't know who would be happy with $400 a month. I personally work over $6,000 a month. I would like to know if she can get more help. Plus, she wants to date but is unable to. Is there a program she could join to increase her chances to find someone to love? Can she get more help financially? Thank you for reading.

Answer 1

Hello, I am disabled. SSI income is pathetic isnt it? Here is the thing, your friend is eligible for alot of things. Education -pell grants, disabled housing, home health aids that will come and help her cook and clean, pell grants for education, disability housing, food stamps. do a search on these by state. The truth of the matter is that the govt does not really care. Either you are at home and being supported by parents or group home OR your just fine and dandy and everything is fine. Tell her to get every single support offered by the state That is what it is there for. Also, if she has considered group home, I have to say my experience was very very unpleasent.

IF she is wanting to live independently, I really suggest a golden girl situation. Get a home with women who might have different special needs. Like a person in wheel chair, deaf person, mentally slow person, blind person. There are things that Sally can do that the other couldnt do. Then another will be able to help Sally on stuff she cant do. Seriously, it is what i am thinking of doing so i can get on my own. I live by myself but family controls everything. Figure out what she needs to be able to live totally independent of her family. She might not chose to move out but it will be nice for her to have that option. Also I forgot check out handicapped transportation for your state. If they have a regular bus route by law their must be a handicapped transportation system. She can ride regular bus if able also at discount. Anyway for van, you call a r a couple of days before the day that you want to do something. If you have a doctors appointment at three
they will come pick you up(too early sometime) take you to your appointment, and you call when you are ready or when you prearranged pick up time is . They will take you anywhere you want. They have wheechair access as well. If she is in need of home health care aid then they aid can ride along on vvan too. In Texas it is two dollars a trip. So transportaiton cost for mall trip is four dollar.($2 GOING AND THEN $2 GOING)

CHECK ADA
United Cp foundation
Medicare
Medicaid
Social Security
Pell grants
Low income housing
I dont know speficially one but i have seen dating services online for handicapped people. Do a search "Handicapped and dating service" see what pops up.

Answer 2

I am sorry to hear about her. I am Disabled also, (100%) and it is going to be hard to find someone to accept her with the way people are anymore I am sorry to say. That should be the LAST thing on her mind though because her needs come first. She can get more Monetary help though such as help with Food and Meds, clothing, and even rides to the Doctor and back. All she has to do is contact Social Services, and explain what she needs. She will need an Award Letter as to how much money she receives and such. They will tell her what to bring with her, and even mail the Forms to her maybe. I applied for help with my groceries 3 years ago and was told I made too much Disability, (yeah right) I asked them to TRADE Paychecks for a year, and you can imagine the answer I got. Well last year I got a letter from Social Services that stated that even though I COULD NOT get help, they had a program I could sign up for that I could get FREE CAT FOOD for my Cats. What is wrong with that picture I ask? I feel for her with all my heart, and she is going to be let down big time IF she tries to meet someone probably because NO ONE cares about anyone on Disibility, and they are just out for them self. This is one screwed up world we live in, and I know that for sure. As long as she is LOVED by Family and TRUE FRIENDS that is what is Important. Good luck to her is about all I can say.

Answer 3

Thats not enough info really. What do her parents do?....She gets a cell phone. Does she work? What does she need a cell phone for? What is wrong with her? What is her handicap? What are her needs? Do her parents get money for her that they hoard? You make 6k a month? Donate to her cause and give her some cash? I make way less then that and have a pretty fine quality of life. If YOU are concerened, pay her to do small jobs around your place, and help out the neighnors doing what she can do. That will help her esteem and teach her to earn her money like everyone else. You want her to have more tax payers money as an uncontributing member of society? This may sound harsh, but Im honest, AND do not know of her handicap.
This all is derived from my opinion that no hero measures should be taken to save a new borns life due to natur and survival of the fittest and we are only smart animals and overpopulation.
As far as love....read the paper....watch community events. I know in my city we have plenty of "socials" for the special needs folk, where they can meet others like them.

Answer 4

Because she has been qualified for social security she qualifies for many other governmental programs. In all states there are agencies which offer programs to the disabled, she can get reduced housing, food stamps, transportation, as well as reduced services from utility companies such as telephone, cable, gas, light, etc., so all that is really needed here is someone to do the research and leg work, it will all pay off in the end, it is not over for her, this might even be a beginning. The reason she might get so little in Social Security is because she resides with her parents and she is so young. You can also check with your local hospital for the different programs they offer. God Bless.

Answer 5

Have her check with her state's vocational rehab center as she will qualify for job training or educational training. This is a great way to either earn some money and make some new friends. When I worked with a sheltered workshop, the people there who were mentally and physically disabled said that the most important part of their life was their job because it gave them friends.....so it is not just about money.
quality of life is about having a "normalized" life and being accepted by others.

Also you might think about getting her a computer so that she can chat online and meet someone that way.

Answer 6

if she's got full ssi, it;s like 651 a month, something. If she's young maybe less, not all that up on it.

I had a friend college degree, good job working as a youth counselor. good money.

Stroke. Bam

651 a month. he had to move into subsidized housing, a little place that was 30 miles outside of town, a closet a living room foldout couch, kitchen nook and a bathroom, that's it.

He's had a stroke, lives in a tiny place, and most girls do not want him for it, he's been depressed a lot.

It's not so much a case of who would be happy with 400 a month, it is what she has. There are people that make 14$ american a year and are happy in their lives because thier lives don't revolve around money. Buddhist monks for example.

You make 6k a month, feel lucky. That's insanely good money. When I was on active duty, getting shot at, I sent home 2k a month, after being in for a number of years.

Seems to me like your life revolves around money. Surely most of the stuff is assessing she makes this you make such and such her friends make such and such. Not so much about their other qualities.

I suggest you also work with some children's fund like save the children, etc. My wife and I sponser two girls overseas, and we don't make half of what you make. good luck.

To find someone to love, maybe well it needs to take her disability into account. Support groups exist for most illnesses.

Can she get more help finanacially, Nope, medicaid, maybe health insurance, that's it. Welcome to America, where you need a college degree, and have to be a dynamic producer to be worthwhile to any corporation. Everyone else?

Walk outside any downtown office building, and see corporate guys spit on homeless guys.

Land of the Free.

She's at home, she's living with her parents so she's set up, as long as she doesn't hook into materialism.

Funny, what I could do with 6000 a month. Microscopes for clinics in Laos, and Thailand. Send some kid to a decent community college easily. Sponsor some science student to space camp.

I once put a homeless friend through bartending school let him live with me a year rent free, his school cost 2500, paid for that too. He's a bartender now in florida.

Rutger Hauer has a charity for the turks and caicos islands, where mostly everyone has aids. I gave him a story I wrote to sell in a compilation book he has to benefit those people.

400 a month can be a lot of money if you spend it wisely and live rent free.

Dollar movies, eat at home. Play boardgames with family.
if she can read and wants to, (you didn't discuss her disability) buy her books at half price books shops, and shelves (32.00 at wal mart) It's always good to read, and learn. Best thing you can teach her is how to live frugally, on a few dollars a month. She can have a fulfilling life, she just won't have the ipod computer blackberry etc with all the trimmings. No big loss.

It's just a perspective.

Good luck. Nice to see people trying to help someone else around here, rather than.. does my boy/girlfriend like me, / is cheating on me, etc that I see all the time. Or kids using this to do their homework for them, rather than studying, reading and learning.

Quick fix culture, oh well. Soon they'll fight world war III, and not know enough about why.

Answer 7

ok. i for a while draw ssi,,an to make end meet i did , a small job,,which you can do,,,, different stats, differen wage on ssi....no what they doing they holding out for themed, so this is a good thin,, now you said she get 300 to 400,,an by her liveing with her mom ,an dad , they look at this,, if she was not liveing with them, they would add on abot 60 more a month,,,but she get a cost of liveing raise once a year,,,,,now did she work, an how much did she pay in,,,if she got enought pay in, she might look in o ssd,, now they not going to give you money to party on,, , an by her haveing no bill, sheshould be ok,,,, now on the dateing,,, .all i can say she need to look, but you never say why she drawing ssi, are what wrong with her,,,, it hard to help some one with only haft the facts

Answer 8

There are lot of dating sites that cater to disabled people.

I think is she is unhappy with the amout of her SSI check then she really needs to go to work. She should try and be happy that she does not have to pay rent since she lives with her parents.

Answer 9

I would like to encourage you to find a talent in your friend/neighbor and help her find a way to earn an income at it. My son was ran over by a double loaded potato truck. There are things that he can do .
There are many retraining organizations as well as employment counselors.
I commend you for caring.

Answer 10

Get her a job. Disabled people do work and earn. At her workplace she may meet some nice guys who wants to date her.. Take one thing at a time