Do thirty-something year old women look mainly for a marriage partner? Are they looking only for a husband?

Question

I'm thirty five and looking for a girlfriend. Do women my age want a boyfriend and dating companion or a husband?

My mom is a school teacher and finds two primary types of women my age:those tied to their job with no social life and those who hit the club scene. The second type are generally more callous towards men.

I think that a long term relationship would proceed marriage. I don't want to pressure a woman I hardly know into marriage. How do you get to the point of marriage without being dating partners first?

Answer 1

I agree with most previous answers, especially robb.
Do not make a decision 'I will marry'.
Until you love someone and she loves you so much that the decision is made!just be a nice person to be around, any false offers or inconsistent feelings will give her reason to later think, 'he is nothing like the man he was before we were married'.Do not try to impress, it will backfire on you.
Being in a committed relationship is not equal to marriage.
I am so very dubious that in our fast moving, fast changing society young men and women will always and forever be the only 'right' person for them. Look at the statistics of divorce and separation. Now think of the agony behind the making of that decision for the people involved. Every single one of them probably truly believed they were going to love 'the one' for ever. Why does it happen?. Life changes some people's ideals and focus and the other is no longer on their wavelength and splat!, marriage over.
Definitely go out as boyfriend and girlfriend, you will most likely both get much joy from the ease of the friendship forged.

Answer 2

An amazing number of women don't want a husband at all. Many are just not interested in doing your laundry. I know many women that like their single life just fine and some can and do raise families on their own and find it far easier than dealing with the demands of a relationship while having a job and children. So, not ALL women are standing on their door steps panting for the opportunity to be your wife or girlfriend. Many of the women I know find committed relationships too fraught with drama when they are tired from work and the pressures of young families. So you will have to look hard to find the right young lady for you.

Answer 3

Might no longer like this reply however first outline, for your self, what you imply by way of "a well lady". Being over 50 method this wasn't the primary time you acquired "burned' in a terrible courting and whether it is, you have led an overly sheltered lifestyles. Women are all distinctive, however we are beautiful constant it doesn't matter what age. Unless you're comfy in what a well lady, for you, has to present and no longer inclined to compromise then any lady is a well lady so long as she has a pulse.

Answer 4

I always wants to date someone that has the same values and plans that I have. When I was younger I used to want to date guys that were looking for a girlfriend, after I grow up, I wanted to date men that were looking for a wife. The point is, It doesn't matter if both of us are looking for the same thing, it doesn't mean I will want to marry this or that guy just because like me, he wants to get married, but it is important that we are on the same track. I would not date a guy, who is looking for fun for example, because I don't like to be treated as object of fun, I date guys who wants a family and a real relationship because that is the way I like to be treated not meaning I will marry him or looking for marrying him. I hope you have understood my point.

Answer 5

I am a teacher and it has surprised me, but if these teachers are not married by thirty, I think they are not really looking for a husband. I think that when professional women have strong emotional support systems, they are less inclined to get married. They are financially secure and independent. Most say they would like a child, but no one seems overly enthusiastic about getting married.

I think that if I had been in their situation when I was that age, I would agree.

Answer 6

I am from India. In our culture, women seek companions at this age, with an eye on marriage.

Answer 7

Different for every woman really. But my experience is after thirty the whole baby issue goes to the front burner. See Ya! I'll never be your beast of burden- Mick Jagger

Answer 8

It all starts off as a friend, then a dating companion and if it is mutual, it ends in marriage... Don't have any preconceived ideas that they want marriage.. They are equally careful.

Answer 9

Believe it nor not, they are not all the same! It depends on individual circumstances and expiriences, but in this age you can expect you shhould be able to talk to her. Otherwise it's lost!

Answer 10

Seems to me like more just want the sex, they don't want to feel like they have to follow some guy's rules.

That's generally been my experience.

Typical lines from these types:
"I don't want to be tied to no man."
"I don't want to be anyone's kitchen slave"
"No, I tried being married."
"Let's just have fun, and not talk about the future. let it get her on it's own"

Some do want to get married, they'll say: Yes, I am looking to get married.

Good luck.