Ditch the sexually selfish girlfriend?

Question

I've been involved with a girl for over a year, She's a great companion, sexy, smart, and beautiful. Yet, as a VERY giving guy sexually, I find her to be just the opposite. Once she's satisfied, I've got a 50/50 shot at my own satisfaction. I've read other threads similar to this and do see that this is not the only way she's selfish. Do I run as fast as I can?

OK. I guess I need to edit this. I have communicated my feelings about this, and for a short time the problem fades, but then returns.

Answer 1

She may not be aware of her own selfishness or she may have been in previous relationships or even friendships where she's always been the giver that when she received from you it was something she did not previously experience hence enjoyed alot and got into a routine of receiving and not giving,but unintentionally. i think you should talk to her, and only if she cant see or understand where you're coming from then consider running. good luck

Answer 2

If you want to run please do and soon you've been with her for a year dragging it out will just hurt her more. You say you are giving but you seem to have not discussed this with her just having found her wanting in this area you've started looking for other character flaws and seeing as she is human you found them. I would think the kindest thing you could do for her is hit the road and let her find someone who thinks she is worth having a conversation with. Yellow crime tape all around this young lady to protect her from self centered jerks. Move on nothing to see here just a young lady about to be totally devastated by a man she trusted enough to give her heart and body to.

Answer 3

Stay the course. You're probably younger and sonunds like you need to NOT satify her as quickly as you have been doing, ya think?
Some reading and education is in order...
she's obviously inexperienced in pleasing a man.
I know a woman who had five kids when i met her and she knew how to do nothing and this is the gods honest truth...the ex ,she said, just did what he wanted to do and that was all she wrote 5 kids and lots and lots of abuse and 16 years later she finally left...

Answer 4

Slow down with the giving, until she catches up a little. Usually the problem would run the other way

Answer 5

She does sound dangerous. I'd probably run for the hills, although there's something alluring to me about a woman who knows how to get what she wants. You could be in a lot worse situation, and you ought to be able to talk about this with her.

Answer 6

i think that sex should go both ways each person should be fully satisfied when its over and each should be able to get off at least once during it otherwise what is the point??

Answer 7

You get her off and she just rolls over and goes to sleep?
Yeah, sounds like a waste of time. I'd blow. Especially if she's selfish in other ways. Maybe she's gay? (Not your fault BTW)

Answer 8

Sex is not everything in a relationship. It sounds like you have a communication problem.

Answer 9

Stay and do what she tells you when she tells you with no questions asked or worrying about your own needs.

Answer 10

your a man just *** quicker and leave her hanging, then she will realize what she is doing to you. If she is selfish in other departments including that then you gotta leave man because one day she is going to piss you off. Test her and see if she will do the same stuff you do for her and if she doesn't then man up and leave.