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Question

Mssr X's good points:

1. Good job
2. Very considerate and does the practical work around the house
3. Very kind person

Bad points:

1. Slightly overweight and not good-looking
2. A bit of a computer geek and often talks about his work in normal conversation
3. Does no exercise

Other points:

Of Indian descent (third generation)

Answer 1

physically he doesn't sound at all attractive...but from the good points...he seems alright...but i still won't go out with a guy who im not physically attracted to

Answer 2

God, are you still there? Haven't you get the idea on a previous question. Let's do like this:
Miss X's good points:
1. Good job
2. Very considerate and does the practical work around the house
3. Very kind person
Bad points:
1. Slightly overweight and not good-looking
2. A bit of a computer geek and often talks about his work in normal conversation
3. Does no exercise
Other points:
Of Indian descent (third generation)

We should add, she is a student that can't support herself.
Do you feel attracted by the girl described above ?
PS: Some guys are interesting. Once I met this guy at the elevator of my building, when we walked out of the building anb reached the corner of it, he approached me politetly and asked if he could take me out for a dinner or a coffee some of these days...I didn't want to be rude, so I said I couldn't because I have somebody.
The guy left with my doormen an envelop with his resume, his buisness card and a letter, telling how great he was and what car he had, actually cars.... I didn't answer it. He started to leave gifts and flowers, at this point, the doormen had already told him (after a nice tip, I suppose), I was single...To make matters worse, the guy started to show up on the entrance of my building when I was living...like we have accidently bumped into each other.... Than, I thanked him for the flowers and gift and manitanied I could not go out with him, he isnsited for only one time for a coffe at the restaurant at the coner, I said ok...To make this long story short, he wasn't my type. Sometimes, we should deal with the facts and get over it. I have felt interested for guys that didn't feel for me...did I push them, did I lie to myself about being perfect and not imporve my flaws ? No. That's why we call this life, because isn't easy to deal.
You can ask this question 100 times, if you don't improve yourself, don't loose some weight for example, the asnwers will still be the same.

Answer 3

Well I don't think being a computer geek is a bad point. Secondly, if the guy just did some excercise he would solve two of his bad points. Thirdly, the guy should stop talking about his work in normal conversation so much and talk about more light-hearted things. All this would make that guy much more attractive. He just needs to fix a few aspects and then he could be!

Answer 4

Yes, I think I would find the overall package of this guy attractive, although whether that would be instant on meeting him, or only once I got to know him, I couldn't say without meeting him. Even a photo will not tell me for certain, people look different when animated, there is the look in their eyes, the way they stand/dress/talk/smell that you can only pick up in real life.

Going through the points one-by-one:

Good job is important in a serious relationship, where the girl might want a provider for herself and any children. In a superficial relationship, it might help because the girl can show off to others that her guy has a job of high status or has money to spoil her with.

Helpful around the house is mainly a good point if the girl is looking for a serious relationship. Therefore, a girl only after a good time might not be bothered, but girls looking to settle down will be pleased about this.

Considerate and kind are points that I think everyone likes to find in anyone they meet, whether friend, neighbour, colleague, etc.

Slightly overweight is not exactly uncommon these days. It's more of an issue if it causes lack of confidence, or betrays a lack of care of oneself. No girl is going to want to be with a guy that can't look after himself - or how will he look after her? Exceptions being people who want to be needed (they will want to take care of him), and some girls won't want a man to take care of them as they are very indepenent. In any event, I think this is more about health than looks. If it bothers Mr X then he should do something about it, if not, he should just make sure that his health is OK.

(Just a side note: I believe that cardiac health problems are more common in men of asian descent. Depending on his age and family background, other risk factors such as smoking, etc. he might want to get his blood pressure and cholesterol checked, and start eating more healthily and doing moderate exercise - just for the sake of his health, not to attract anyone. Sorry for this note, I'm a pharmacist, so a bit of a geek in a different way!)

Whether or not a person is what is generally accepted to be "good-looking", there will be people who find them attractive. I know a guy who thinks he is ugly, but to me he has a lovely smile, the very top of his chest (the bit you can see with one or two buttons open on his shirt) is gorgeous and he has the best bum in the world. However, the main reasons I like him are because I find his personality attractive. Maybe when girls first meet Mr X they are not especially attracted to him - but either he is meeting the wrong girls, or he needs to let them get to know him. I find that once I have feelings for a person, I then find them physically attractive.

Being a computer geek would put some people off, but you are what you are. If good friends say that he is too one-track-minded then perhaps Mr X should find other topics of conversation, but if he enjoys his job and finds it interesting, why shouldn't he talk about it? I like to listen to people talking about topics they find interesting and are knowlegeable about.

Doing no exercise would not put me off. Again, it's more of a health thing than anything else, and maybe a lifestyle hint. A girl who is very health-conscious and active might find this off-putting, but other girls find very-active guys intimidating, especially if he demands that his girlfriend is as fit and active as he is.

Of Indian descent - that doesn't tell me anything relevant. If it means that his skin is darker, I like that, so it would be a bonus. If he has an interest in both the culture of his current home country and India, fine, that's another topic he can talk about that would be interesting to me. If he has ideas that are very culturally different from mine, that might be a barrier to a close relationship, but that could be true of anyone of any descent, so as I say, the fact of his cultural background by itself is not useful, I need to know his attitude. If he is helpful around the house, and kind and considerate, I can't see there being a problem.

Hope this VERY long answer was some use!

P.S. The answer by David S may be true of some women, but speaking only for myself, it is not important; although if I had to choose, I'd rather have a guy whose penis was smaller than average rather than bigger.

Additional: I've since seen your other questions in this "series" and am now a bit miffed that I took this one so seriously! Are any of these guys real? Are any of them you?

Answer 5

Yes,in my opinion you are a good man and I wish you find someone who will love you the way you are. I can see you far away and you are not sure about relationship. Trust me it is not your time yet and I urge you to keep looking and meeting new people. You will find a good person like you who are kind,big heart,and happy going person. I wish you the best. Remember good looking is nothing if he or she is not kind, considerate and happy going like you.Too bad I am a happy mother of 3 otherwise I will ask you for your personal e-mail.

Answer 6

Who cares if anyone else is attracted to him!
Your not, your embarrassed by him, and your wondering if you should "settle" for him.
He sounds a little too good for you, and your snobbish attitude may get worse, especially if a cute guy who doesn't have a good job / doesn't work / and not that kind, shows up.
I'm also guessing that your work has nothing interesting that is worth talking about.
Sorry, you didn't ask for a guys opinion, but I couldn't resist.

Answer 7

well to be honest and give you my honest opinion,i don't think that any guy is or can be good looking,just because they have a good job,and is kind,and may do practical jobs round the house!..what the hell that has to do with the way he looks? I'm not saying that kind and considerate..can be attracting,but i think that you have to at least Fancy them just a bit.

Answer 8

In today's society, image is everything. Well, to me it is not. If a man is kind, caring, compassionate, trustful, respectful and has a sense of humour, then it does not matter to me if he is slightly overweight. Outer beauty can and will fade over time, inner beauty will always shine!

So to answer your question, yes I would find such a man attractive

Answer 9

good points - very good

bad points - not all that bad - ladies aren't as switched on by looks as men seem to be - some ladies like computers too

exercise thing can be sorted methinks as it is good for you

Indian descent - he could trade on that as there are some exotic aspects to Indian culture and art

Answer 10

Nope

Answer 11

mr x knows what he has to do to make himself more attractive he must start to feel good about himself instead of hanging on to the bad points do something about them