Do thirty five year old women care who they hurt? Why are they so harsh with their rejection?

Question

I had two rejections that were pretty harsh. One said that she wanted to have sex, but not with me. The other wouldn't date me because I don't have a car.

They were both very rude with me. Why? What do they gain by hurrting a man's feelings?

I'm not such an arrogant person to group all women in this category. These are just two of them. Other women are very nice to me. Secondly i own a house and have a great job. The first woman was looking for sex and I didn't want to give myself to her and the second woman wanted me to pick her up to see what kind of car I drive. I don't have a car because my dad crashed it.

Answer 1

Screw them. No, not all thirty five year old woman are harsh like that, only rude 35 year old women. Women who are not worth your time. think of it this way, at least you didn't get too involved and completely taken advantage of before they screwed you over. There is a woman out there for you. Continue to be yourself...maybe get a car if you can as it does help to be able to take a girl on a date and it also helps to give you a sense of being able to just jump up and go any old where you want. Some women are just jerks. Go to church...i know it sounds foolish but its true, you can find good women in church, women who value a relationship with a good man.

Answer 2

Without more context, this one is hard to judge.

Where was this? In a bar?

If you are getting rejected regularly try new technique.

Most women over 25 have been burned by guys no car, no job, that hit them up for money. Realize that in the game of dating these 35 year olds are grizzled veterans, with 10 years experience, and know all the tricks of the dating scene.

For them, they are typically seeking a guy with: Car, job, home or at least nice apartment. Period, end of story. Women that age with kids will sometimes settle for job and apartment, cause they need a place for their kids.

Good luck.

I always had very good luck with 23 year olds.

Answer 3

Don't know for sure but I imagine that they seem to be mislead. They must believe that Mr. Right is still out even though in reality land Mr. Right is married with two kids, a dog, and a mortgage by now. Give'em some time and they will warm up around forty something. If not, they should differently get the clue in the fifties since most men in they're generation will have died off by then.

Perhaps you should aim at a little younger generation. They are more open to excitement instead of picking your pocket.

Answer 4

Sounds like you pursued them pretty hard and they wanted to make sure that you knew there was no chance. By the way all thirty five year old women are not that way. It is a symptom of why women are not finding you attractive. Lumping anyone into a catagory like that is rude and very disrespectful. Perhaps if you started treating the ladies you know like individuals they would treat you with more respect.

Answer 5

That does sound harsh but at least they were honest as to why instead of telling you rubbish. Sorry you got hurt, perhaps when you're 35 and single you don't have time to waste and get to the truth a little faster. Who knows they probably felt bad about it later on, but you are lucky they weren't interested you could do much better.

Answer 6

Maybe they were just being truthful, You approached the wrong women , can you tell when someone might be nice to you by the way they smile at you or talk to you, You must be a very sensitive person or are coming on too strong with the wrong women.

Answer 7

I think the second sounds like a whore. If you had a car, she would have sex with you perhaps in the back seat ? Very classy lady. The first was honest. I feel to have sex, but it doesn't mean I feel to have it with every men that feels to have sex with me. Should she have sex with you just not to hurt your feelings ? What about her feelings ? Do you have sex with women you don't feel to have at all? Well, if you do, it doesn't mean others feels OK on doing it too. Besides this, you are men, women's have others things that motivates them to have sex besides looks. Men can lock themselves in the bathroom with a playboy magazine and get over it, women doesn't, we use our imagination, fantasizes to satisfy ourselves, is more complex.
If they were rude to you, I wonder also, how it was your approach ? If I guy approaches me in a rude way or making disgusting signs, I totally ignore him and if he insists than I tell him to back off. Why should I respect and be sensible with a guy who is acting like a jerk ? Now, if I guy approaches me politely and I am still not interested, I tell I have somebody or I give him a wrong number in order to give him the message without being rude.

Answer 8

Maybe their at a point in their lives where they don't want to take anymore bullshizz from anyone. Women put up with a lot from you men, and maybe they've finally found the strength to confront it, irregardless of the fact that you were not the one who initially hurt them.

Answer 9

Well would you rather that they lead you on and not be honest with you. The first one was pretty harsh and rude. Maybe they don't know their honesty is being too direct and rude the way they say it to you.

Answer 10

Ya, the when is it going to be me and my time act. The reality that fairy tales are over feels thick in thirties and having self control is better than still trying to hatch wings but they don't know it yet. If they act like that their not getting off right and it shows it what they look like and how they behave.