After 2 months of no contact I finally had the courage to tell him my side of the story during the relationship, since he was my second long term relationship I didn't have any experience in guys who had issues which i never came across which i misinterpreted thinking that something was wrong with me that i wasn't accepted for who I was and made me pretend to be someone else for the realtionship to work. Looking back at it now I know where I have done wrong and I have learnt my lesson, so i have told him this. But now he is contacting more often asking questions about what i said, its like he's interested in what happened too. Could this be a good thing or am i just wasting my time. I still love him, my feelings haven't changed but I'm not expecting any miracles here, just want to know if this could be a thing?
2007-03-24 22:24:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way he dumped me, saying that he was unhappy at the end of the relationship but didn't know why. I was furous at him then becuase he basicly ran away, he did tried to contact me before but I ignored it because I wasn't ready.
2007-03-24 22:24:13 · update #1
Absolutely there are positives to this. As has been mentioned, closure is a fantastic thing to achieve. Also, going over what happened will help you learn from it so you don't repeat it in the future. And it's great practice for sharing your feelings 100% honestly (you have nothing to lose), which is a KEY ingredient in any successful future relationship.
Good luck!
2007-03-24 22:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it is perfectly okay to talk to him about how he treated you and how it made you feel. It will be healthy for your soul! I told my X what a jerk he was! Dont waste your time though, let him learn his lesson! dont be his doormat. It will make him a better and stronger person, and because of you, he might think twice about treating the next girl that way! If he needs counseling however, go tell him to seek a counselor. sorry if that sounds harsh, but he may be using it as an excuse to be with you. good luck.
2007-03-25 05:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by **twin** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you can maintain a line of communication with an ex, it's quite mature, first of all, but secondly it's a great way to gain closure. Most importantly, you can learn what you did right and wrong, as well as him. It will definitely help both of you in future relationships so as not to make the same mistakes again. :)
2007-03-25 05:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, there is nothing wrong with it. But in your case you still love him! Now you're making excuses just to have him back. There's someone out there that can give you what you want. Be patient! Stop wasting your time girlfriend you LEFT HIM for a reason. Move on!
2007-03-25 05:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him personally if there's any chance to revive the relationship. Don't guess. Assumption is the mother of all screw-up. Unless you ask, you'll never know. If he is genuinely interested in you, he's likely to be concerned. Otherwise, don't waste your timel It's like a soap opera to him. Move on.
2007-03-25 05:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now that you are talking about what went wrong in your relationship & you are able to talk to one another again...maybe the two of you can become friends .....then somewhere inbetween when you feel comfortable about everything start dating.each other again to see if it will work.
2007-03-25 05:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by simplesimon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup you can get closure
2007-03-25 05:27:56 · answer #7 · answered by warr31 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋