Is it understood that who you address on the outer invitation is the only person that is invited to the wedding?
2007-03-24 22:12:05 · 20 answers · asked by Deborah P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you address it to "Jane Doe and guest (or escort)"
2007-03-24 22:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The names listed on the inner envelope are the ones invited to the wedding. It is usually understood, but some people will still ask if they can bring someone (or worse, just assume they can bring someone).
You don't have to invite guests for single people. Just make sure you are consistent, so that either all single guests can bring a guest or cannot.
If you don't invite guests, you can either have a singles table where you put all the single people, or you can seat them with couples that they know. There are pros and cons for each of these arrangements.
2007-03-25 05:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by jellybeanchick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you address an invite to a single person, it should be understood that only that person is being invited. It would be rude for that person to think he or she may bring an un-invited guest. However; if the single person is engaged, proper etiquette dictates that you are to add "and guest" on the envelope. It is very nervy for a guest to do any of the inviting; the guest list is decided by the host not the invitee.
2007-03-26 01:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not necessary to include a guest for every one of your guests. Use good judgement and hopefully no one will be offended. At my sister's wedding, the rule was, if we knew the entire couple, or if the couple was engaged, they were both invited. IF not, the invitation was addressed to only the guest. My horrible cousin insisted on bringing her boyfriend, because they were "sooooo close"--of course, they broke up shortly after. . . but to keep peace in the family, when she asked, my mother couldn't say no.
There's only so much money to go around. That's the plain fact of throwing a wedding. Feelings may be hurt, but those people need to deal.
2007-03-25 10:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by kimpenn09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, why should a bride and groom pay for someone's date if that is all it is, not a boyfriend or girlfriend? I think bringing a guest (non b/g friend) would be fine if it was a wedding where you knew NO ONE else, or in a foriegn country, completely different state, etc. Otherwise, I would only invite legit couples to a wedding, I know it sounds bad, but why should the couple marrying have to foot the bill for someone you don't really care too much about?
2007-03-25 05:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by Runnin for my life '73 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whoever is on the inner envelope is generally who is invited--so if you write "Susan Smith and guest," the invitee knows that they may bring a guest. If you address it "Susan Smith," then only Susan is invited.
When planning my wedding, what I uncovered in my research is that it is customary for single guests to attend alone UNLESS they have a significant other that they have been dating for a year or more. Then it is customary to invite the other by name, not "and guest." You are not required to allow single attendees to bring guests, but of course if you want to let them, it's your day!
Congratulations!
2007-03-25 05:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If using only a single envelope it is whomever you address it to on the envelope. If you choose to go with 2 envelopes (inner and outer) then you address the outer to the adult(s) you intend to invite and the inner to all the parties you wish to invite.
example:
Outer: Mr. John Smith
Inner: John Smith and Guest
You are not required to allow your single guests to invite a guest to come with them, but it is a courtesy you may wish to extend if they do not know many of your other guests.
2007-03-25 05:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends. Usually people nowadays are having small intimate weddings and will only allow someone to bring a guest if the person is in a long term relationship, engaged, or married.
2007-03-25 08:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not include "and guest" on the envelope, then they are to arrive w/out a date.
Now if that person does have a significant other, you should be polite and include them also.
We recently received an RSVP back that included 3 other names on it, and the main person we invited. Those 3 other names were not on the original envelope.
2007-03-25 11:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by sweetxgrace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette says that only the people on the envelope are invited, so if "Guest" isn't listed, then this person must fly solo. So do your guest a favor and write it on the invite.
2007-03-25 05:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by adamsts54 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm only including "and guests" if someone is in a serious relationship. It seems silly for me to invite a guest for my single and fabulous friends - it just pressures them to find a date willing to travel! They'll have fun hanging out with each other.
2007-03-25 10:11:47 · answer #11 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋