I am 21 years old. 5' 8" long blonde hair, Blue eyes, Tan, 180#. I like to spend time with my god kids, go to work, ride dirt bike,Fourwheel, race my goat cart. I go to college part time for child development. I like to hang out with friends, go clubbing or just sit at home and have an occasional drink. I smoke cigarettes. Love to be outdoors playing with my dog or working on my car. I have been told that I am intimidating because I know how to roof, sheetrock, and side houses. I dont understand why I cant find the man I have been looking for.
2007-03-24 22:01:34 · 14 answers · asked by LiL_MaMa_1985 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was my dads last hope for a boy when he found out my mom was prregnant so I got stuck doing the dirty work but it doesnt bother me I can do things on my own and dont need a man to do them for me.
2007-03-24 22:07:42 · update #1
you are only 21 so nothing is wrong with you just be patient and wait .
2007-03-24 22:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by asphyxia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Do you really have a goat cart?)
It's true that guys do need to have their women respect them. But if some idiot is intimidated because he can't do anything other than sheetrock, and you can do that better, that's a pretty limited person who is not worth your time.
At the same time, if you can admire a guy for what he does, that allows him to see himself as attractive, and that will make him feel good when he is with you. Note that the better he thinks of you, the better your good opinion of him makes him feel. It's not the basis for a relationship, but it's a start.
To be honest, the 180 is going to be another "burden". Get that under control. Don't starve yourself or try to make your body into someone else's, but be the best you that you can comfortably be. This includes your mind and spirit as well as your physique. Quit smoking, it will never make you more attractive and it will never do you any good.
When you like yourself and your life, and THEN you will attract a guy who can't stay away from you. They are all around you.
2007-03-24 22:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by abrunger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but wow.
Okay next date lose the talk about the sheetrock.
I mean, I'm as virile as the next military veteran, and I mean, Roofing?!? You are more of a handyman than most guys would be and they know it. You're proud of yourself, certainly.
Set your sights higher.
You're gonna need to marry a police officer or firefighter, someone more macho than three guys, or a marine or something.
Most guys would deal, except I mean, good deal you got those skills, but let people know after you are dating a few months.
The average 21 year old guy is looking for hu hu cheerleaders, not someone that knows how to use a nailgun.
You would though find some luck in habitat for humanity those people that build houses, good luck.
Any guys that work as roofers or such would love you though it would be working together on roofs and such. Maybe a team partnership roofing team or something.
This was the most fun question I have seen all day. you sound like .. pretty cool. Maybe start your own roofing show.
Good luck.
2007-03-24 22:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Well.. I'm a striking intelligent single guy.. who lives alone near the beach.. and you seem like you need to see the world a little.. and you'll probably realise quick smart that there's a million guys, including me who would probably think you had a lot to offer.. for one you've got character to even put such a post up.. its kinda sweet.. you're also adventurous and open minded which is hard to find in a lot of girls.. not a fan of nightclubbing and smoking.. but you'll get over it..
Someone wrote.. "be patient" .. i agree.. the longer you can hold out.. the more likely you will find the right guy.. you can still learn a lot about the opposite sex without having sex.. so take time just to talk to guys when you can.. you're obviosuly busy but I'm sure you get to meet a lot of guys at college and going out.. just dont rush the way girls tend to do these days..
2007-03-24 22:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't help but notice I had the same problem from the opposite point of view. (I'm a guy. :P )
And I thought exactly like you a few years ago. See, I'm 25 now, and I've grown to learn since then that Ms. Right, or Mr. Right in your case, is not someone to look for, neither someone to expect to show up. Doing so takes your focus out of your life, out of your person, out of improving yourself, and puts it into "that" person you so badly want to appear.
Placing such high expectations on everyone you meet ("Could he be the One? Couldn't he?") seems a huge burden on the back of any man to me. Now THAT scares off guys. And you don't even have to mention it for most of us to notice it. As you yourself can tell which guys desperately need to get laid (sorry for the bluntness), that is something that can be felt, almost smelled.
As to your preferences, these are fairly standard, as are your skills, so don't be ashamed by them. (Don't get me wrong, you are amazingly versatile on both fields, but there's nothing particularly repealing about them.) Those who would be intimidated by your abilities have little insight on their own and thus a very limited self-esteem, so don't fear.
Again, don't get me wrong: I haven't found Ms. Right. But realizing all that means that the phantom of Ms. Right does not haunt me anymore. Perhaps the only difference is that suddenly the light shined on me about this problem. Maybe that's all you need. :)
2007-03-24 22:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Subconsciously, you don't need a man and unconsciously you are attracting just that. No man. You must be what you want to attract. If men are avoiding you it's because you have no clear definitions of what a man that you are looking for is. Why not write out a detailed description of the man you are looking for and focus on that.?You are the solution to your problem.
2007-03-24 22:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you've written, there is nothing that would make you inherently un-datable. Your best bet is to ask someone who knows you that isn't concerned with your dating life. Maybe you give off a "don't mess with me" vibe. Maybe you're addicted to "bad boys" and are missing potential boyfriends. Your college may have a peer counseling center where you could get this feedback privately.
2007-03-24 22:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by Nels N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop looking thats the problem. let your life play out. if you spend the time your spending looking for mr. right on being happy and getting to know yourself. one day you'll wake up 50 years from now and say to yourself hey happy anniversary mr. right. point is go along for the ride don't try to cram
2007-03-24 22:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by job e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop smoking.
Major turn off for me.
YUCK.
A guy might as well go kiss his exaust pipe on his car as to kiss a woman who smokes.
2007-03-24 22:06:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good things come to those who wait. personally I think its pretty cool that you can do all of those things. Maybe you don't need a guy around, but sometimes a guy needs to feel needed.
2007-03-24 22:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by Brian D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st: stop smoking.mostly for guys it is turn off. 2nd:your still young, dont be afraid
3rd:"mr. right" will just come to you,you dont have to look for him
4th:cherish the moment your still single and unattach
your one of a kind...keep it up....
2007-03-24 22:26:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋