What should I do about my girlfriend asking for alot of attention, even while she's sleep?

Question

Me and my girlfriend live together. We work and after she works, she goes to choir rehearsal, and then she helps out with a program that assist kids. We barely spend time together. But while shes not here at home, she still wants me to stay at home. I didn't give her any thoughts to not trust me. And at night, she'll be sleep, but she'll get up and want me to come back to bed even though i'm not sleepy. But she really hates for me to leave the bedroom. She is asking for alot of attention, and at the same time shes not willing to stay home sometimes to get some attention. I tried to talk to her about it, but she says nothings wrong. What should I do?

Answer 1

This is a sure sign that she is clingy. If it is something you can tolerate, keep on with it. But, it seems to me that she is in the beginning stages of trying to control you. In other words, I'm seeing a giant, red flag on this one.

If you want to test the boundaries, next time she tries to assert her authority, stand up for yourself; her reaction will tell you everything. If she tries to pull the crying and guilt trip, run away as this is emotional manipulation. If she's apologetic and remarks that she didn't realize how you truly felt, you might be able to work on it together. :)

Answer 2

There really is some kind of problem going on here. She's showing responsibility because she works and volunteers and on the other hand when she's dragging you back to bed to be with her it seems like a serious "control freak" or security/trust issue for her. So what are you her boyfriend or her favorite blanky?
She's spreading herself pretty thin with everything she's doing. It needs to be balanced though so YOU and she feel like theres a relationship going on, right?
Your needs are'nt being met either! Are you feeling a little caged?
Let's try this: Talk to her about having a date night once a week. A nice dinner (not macdonalds) and a movie
One picks the restraurant and the other picks the movie and at no time allow her to do both.
Tell her you miss her so much and that you truly feel that you do need time together. Even if it means cutting back on one of her activities one night of the week.
What your looking to find out is whether or not she's willing to give a little. If she's completely immovable on anything and everything at least you know a little more about her problem.
The security issue of wanting you by her side at night can only mean one of two things. She's a little insecure and needs to know where you are every minute or she's used to sleeping with you and is disturbed that your not there.
If this young woman is getting the upper hand on being a control freak her denial is going to be a major problem.
I could recommend a book, (can't remember author) titled
"Co-dependent No More". Get it and read it yourself first; see if anything rings a bell for your situation.
I will tell you it may be possible to help her with this and it may take professional help. I wish you both the best. She sounds like a terrific young lady. Your commitment is well noted. Good for you too.

Answer 3

I think she misses you and sometimes women just like men want affection to know they are special. i think you should surprize her sometimes and do what she asks she isnt wanting you to come to bed to sleep. maybe she feels like she will lose you because you dont spend enough time together. i would just reassure her she is still important and this has strengthed your relationship tell her something like when your apart you think of her. or you miss her and love her. things will work out good luck

Answer 4

I can relate. I need a lot of attention. Give her what she wants. I am sure she is a giver. Women need to know they are loved. Good luck hope it works out (you are in control of the outcome).