me and this girl sarah has been best friends since we both whent to the same primary school.in primary school she was always mean to me and bullyed me and i have forgiven her cause we was still very young.well we both whent to diffrent secondary school and she moved to another house,and i still whent to visit her and we was still best friends.well she carryed on been bossy to me and not very nice.well i just took it and well at hers 16th birthday she inived me over to her house to sleep over and she had over friends over from her school.well she let one of her m8s bully me and wasnt that nice to me.i didnt talk to her for 1 year and recently she phoned me saying she has changed.
im not sure if to give her another chance.
2007-03-24 21:58:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wouldn't - she sounds like she isn't really a great mate....
You are much better off with friends that are nice to you, life is too short to worry if she will be nasty again
2007-03-24 22:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by Lupee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Cutie,
It sounds to me like you have had almost all your life thus far of the bad treatment this 'friend has to offer you' and it's time to give her a bit of the same, and with good reasons too, if she calls you again or you see her again, just come right out with it, and tell her, you have moved on with your mind and the regard you hold her in your mind, you have no wish to be friends with her any more, you don't hate her and tell her you never did hate her even for all the tears she made you weep when there were moments when you were not together, and you are dashed! If you are going to let her treat you like a 'bullies target' into your adult life too, enough is definitely too much in this case, so Cutie, treat yourself to some new company and have fun where YOU count in everything you do With your new friends, have fun honey, and enjoy turning away from what hurt you for so long, you sound like a very nice young lady, good luck ..... Bye.....Tony M
2007-03-24 23:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by tony m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation hun. Although my friend didn't bully me, she poo'd on me (not literally of course) so many times i finally said enoughs enough. I washed my hands of her. I know that when you've known some1 a long time you feel kinda guilty for dropping them but there's only so much you can take before you stand up 4 yourself and get rid! May I suggest telling her exactly why you fell out with her in the 1st place and don't hold anything back. It doesn't resolve anything but it will make you feel better about it all. Just take care of yourself x
2007-03-24 22:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may well have recognised what a b***h she was to you over the years and the fact that she has phoned you could suggest that she wants to make things right you have to assess whether your friendship meant enough to you to start again, how did you feel in the year you were apart? did you miss her? were you happier without her? this will give you the answer you need, you seem really nice and didnt deserve to be treated like this, she has missed you and now realises what a good friend you were, i wish you luck whatever you decide you are intelligent enough to handle it
2007-03-24 22:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
attempt to reconnect. in case you fairly do omit them and the assembly you had did no longer end badly then there continues to be a huge gamble of regaining friendship even in spite of the undeniable fact that that is going to in no way be as tight because it became earlier because of the fact now there's a believe subject. My superb pal and that i did no longer communicate for..god like..years because of the fact of a stupid falling out over jealousy yet I overlooked her and have been given lower back in touch and now that I actually have a daughter we've much extra in trouble-free than earlier.
2016-12-15 08:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you've accepted her bullying over the years she will continue with it - its to late to change why don't you phone her and explain that you really don't have time to fit her into your schedule right now but will be in touch soon - when you put the phone down tear up or delete her name and number from your records and move on - if she try's to contact you again just ignore her
2007-03-24 22:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by suki doo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I wouldnt give her another chance. I would be friends with the people that are nice to you. No friend should bully you so in reality, she is NOT a good friend at all!
2007-03-24 22:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by Kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't change - ever! If I were you, I'd arrange to meet her somewhere and then not turn up. At least then you'd get some satisfaction out of it. She probably only got in touch with you because she has no-one else to torment. Forget her, she's not worth your time.
2007-03-24 22:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sandee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i would steer well clear of this one. she is using you. and also the destructive pattern has already been set. send her a note to say you have moved on with your life, thank you very much, and wish her luck with hers, then go on and make a big success with your life. enjoyng many proper friendships which are mutually beneficial along the way
2007-03-28 00:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by fat momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out yourself if she really changed, and if she is (really really changed), yeah, why not give her a lasttttt chance. But this time, don't let her and her friends bully you again in other words just be friends.
2007-03-24 22:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋