So a friend of mine likes me--alot. She's not bad looking and is a great person, but I just never felt attracted to her. She seems to REALLY like me. Should I date her, because that is what she would want(even if I wasn't drawn to her) or should I just leave things as is and remain friends?
2007-03-24 21:45:11 · 11 answers · asked by TheSilverBeetles 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh wow does this take me back! lol
I was on your "crush's" end a few years ago. Had a wonderful guy who was my absolute best friend ever. We spent so much time together that I did end up having very strong feelings for him. Sadly, he didn't return the feelings, but he was very up front with me about that. When I first asked him if he ever entertained the thought of us being together, he told me I was a very very good friend and that he did not want that to ever get ruined. And he held true to that for a very long time.
My advice to you: Don't bring it up until she asks, just so you know you aren't reading into anything too much. But if she does hint at a possible relationship, tell her that you value your friendship too much to risk losing it if a relationship doesn't work out. Continue to do the things you always do. And if you ever do hook up with another girl, don't abandon what you have now. Sadly, that's what happened to me and my friend. He started dating someone, and yes it did hurt to see them together. But not having him around at all now hurts more than seeing them together ever did. So if you do value your friendship, don't eliminate her. And if your new girl is really for you, she'll accept your friends that were around before she was.
2007-03-24 22:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you dont have feelings for her or are not attracted to her do you really want to date her just to make her happy. And if this is a good friendship would you want to loose the friendship. Maybe you should just tell her how you feel. Open up the lines of communication.
2007-03-25 04:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't date her since you aren't attracted to her. That would be playing with her emotions. You would be sending signals that you don't want to send. She would most definitely get the wrong idea. It's there are it isn't and in this case it isn't. Leave well enough alone.
2007-03-25 04:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to go out with her don't because it will mess up your friendship. Plus if you really cared about her you'd wouldn't mess her around. If you feel the same way go for it
2007-03-25 04:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you to do. You don't wanna do something else and regret it in the long run because it's stupid and you shouldn't regret things in life. Life is full of challenges and here's one of them for you. Listen to what your heart is telling you and go from there.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 04:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by PWD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont like her in that way dont go out with her, if you did she might want to get serouse and you might not want to be that way with her and she'l get hurt in the end and you'll feel like a jerk after
2007-03-25 04:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should just stay friends and ignore the feelings she has for you because she will soon get over you
but maybe after time you will start having feelings for her aswell
2007-03-25 04:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends.
You shouldn't string her along, but tell her the truth. It may hurt her, but you resolved the heartache issue that she would have felt, if you were with her completely.
2007-03-25 04:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do be honest with her...don't drag her around feed her false ideas....but you never know she could be the one for you....really think this through and tell her the truth.
2007-03-25 04:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by ladywetherell23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel that way about her then don't lead her on. I would tell her your feelings.
2007-03-25 05:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by thebodyelectric! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋