I am 20 and have been with the same guy, Z, for 5 years now off and on. We have gone through a lot, and during times of not speaking, I have met guys, and talked to them, b/c I wasn't receiving any attention from Z, but I never did anything with them. Z always found out I was talking to them, and every time he accused me of cheating. I did these things when I was younger and not very mature, but I have learned from my mistakes and I have changed my attitude and my actions so I can be a better g/f. But now, Z says he doesn't want to be with me, even though we are still intimate, he says he loves me, and we we are secluded to each other. He says its b/c he doesn't think I have changed, he thinks that I am the same person, and that I am gonna hurt him again. I can understand that b/c of our past, but I am getting hurt b/c he won't let me show him that I have changed for him. I don't know if I should stay and keep trying, or if it would be better for me to leave, before my heart breaks.
2007-03-24 21:40:09 · 5 answers · asked by Francesca O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know he loves me by the way he acts towards me, he just refuses to be with me officially because he is convinced I haven't changed. How can I show him that I have for real this time?
2007-03-24 23:14:59 · update #1
mmm... i think basically he has the upper hand. he gets to be intimate with you, yet he doesn't have to deal with the work that comes with being in a relationship. he also has you almost "begging" to be with him.
sweetie, you're better than that. don't let some guy have the upper hand. you can't change the past, but he can't move forward despite your best efforts to change, there's really no point in being in this relationship. for your sake, i think it's best to let go of him. it's gonna be tough, especially with your history. but unless something changes, your relationship is going to be like this until one of you guys get sick of it.
hope this helps, good luck
2007-03-24 21:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lmao. first talking to other guys even if you are exclusive couple is not wrong. he has manipulation issues and you have codependancy issues. you both need help. he is just trying to bring your self esttem down because his is. it's what bullies do. tell him to go F**k himself. then you go get some counceling for your codependancy issues. otherwise you will never be in a working relationship....
2007-03-25 04:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by job e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should tell him to give you a chance and see tht u have changed
if he doesnt want to then he is a waste of time so go find a guy that will see the good side of you
good luck
2007-03-25 04:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should stay becouse if he didnt care he wouldnt accuse u of cheating on him when you talk to another guy, this is coming from a guy in love he still cares for you
2007-03-25 04:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by guitar guro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go!!! Move on!!! Get a fresh start!!! Who needs the hassle? There are lots of ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ's in the world.
2007-03-25 04:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by DixeVil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋