Okay. Heres the deal. My boyfriend and I have sex. He LOVES having sex and will take it anytime. I, have yet to find the joy of sex. Why does everyone say its so great? How can I make it so great I that I am the initiator?
It doesnt hurt, it isnt 'boring' or anything, its just...eh. I could take it or leave it.
We are both in good shape, he is definately hung, and its not like I cant relax or anything, I even orgasm 90% of the time. But still, its like...all that work....for an orgasm? I'd really rather go do something else...like get a massage. Now THAT feels great. Actually, that is how he gets me on the bed with no clothes on....tricky tricky!!
Anyway, Id just like to know why YOU Love sex so much, and maybe some tips on how I can make it great for me too.
Do you think I just have a low sex drive? How can I increase it? I Do love him a lot, I love spending time with him and being sweet on him. THat is why we continue to have sex. I just dont NEED it, ya know?
2007-03-24 21:38:12 · 10 answers · asked by makeawish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe you need to get sex that lasts longer with more foreplay and massage...
if you don't love it, stop it and tell your bf that you aren't interested... you'll lose him, but you won't have to worry about all that "work"...
2007-03-24 21:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to find out if you have a low sex drive is to consult your doctor in which case he would prescribe medications to boost you sexual drive. There is a couple other reasons why you wouldn't be as interested in sex anymore as you used to be. The sex could be the same every time and the solution to that is to try new positions etc.
If you have been dating for a while you would look past the physical part of the relationship as less important as the emotional loving relationship. As the experts say you might have reached the "Self-Fulfilled" stage in your psychology and turn to please others such as your boyfriend which would explain why you will not deny him sexual relation even if you are not that motivated about it.
2007-03-24 21:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by riptor1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You really don't like it huh? Well I love sex with my man because of the intimacy. I like feeling the closeness together when it's passionate. And when it's dirty, I like feeling like I'm in control. I like seeing the expressions on his face that he's enjoying me and likes what I'm doing to him. And it gives me a chance to be a dirty girl, even though I'm a very good girl in public, ;-)
Maybe you should try different positions or sex toys to make it more interesting. Maybe drink a couple glasses of wine before you head to the bedroom, that always gets me in the mood when I'm with my man!
2007-03-25 14:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by DRE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be you just ahve a low sex drive. You can talk to your doctor and see if there's anything they can give you to boost it if that's what you really want. I've heard there is something out there that's like viagra for women.
2007-03-24 21:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i think i know how do you feel, just talk to him at an appropriate time and let him know that you would like to enjoy having sex as much as he does, get to know your own body better and tell him what do you like and find out together. and next time let him work a little bit more for what he wants.
2007-03-24 22:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IN 2DAY'S FAST MOVING LIFE IT HAPPEN THAT U FED UP OR BORED OF MAKING SEX.
BUT BEST WAY TO INCRESE UR SEX DESIRE & ADD FUN TO THAT IS
TO CAHNGE UR FUD HABITS & UR DIET
EAT SPICY & CHILY FUD
SEE AN ADULT MOVIE WITH UR PARTNER
WEAR TRANSPARANT SEDUCIVE CLOTHE WHEM U R ALONE 2 GETHER
HAVE A CHAT & CONVESATION OPENLEY ABOUT WAT U GUYS ARE LAKING BEHIND
DO THE THING WHICH U LIKE MOST & TEL UR PARTNERS ABOUT UR SEX POINTS & KNOW HIS SEX POINTS & TOUH THERE & KISS THERE
READ A SOFT PORN MAGAZILNE TO GET EXCITED
ALL THE BEST
2007-03-24 21:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by GYANGURU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more foreplay your bord honey u need a little spice i the bed
2007-03-24 21:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by super mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should can the deadbeat who can't satisfy you and try ridin' with a real man like me.
2007-03-24 21:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are bore, better, he is boring you.
2007-03-24 21:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it be cuz you aint wit a brotha. you know we be better at everything.
2007-03-24 21:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋