ma boyfriends parents dont like me because of what i did in the past. Recently they even tried to make up a lie that i was riding around with some boys when i had spend the whole day wit him in ma boyfriend almost belived them. To get it straight the so say boys were ma sister in her friend we had went to go pick up ma lil sister from her school. The reason i dont get an apartment with him to get away is because im 17 about to be 18 in 4 months.What should i do????
2007-03-24 21:31:53 · 8 answers · asked by Melissa M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well first of all you just set a mark for yourself for whatever you did in the past, so don't expect anything nice from his parents and he's going to believe them because guys always stick to the parents word. Maybe you shouldn't worry so much what they think and try to focus on winning the trust of your bf. Try to take it ez with this relationship, because your only 17 live it up!
2007-03-24 22:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try a few things:
1. If their opinion really means that much to you, you should try sitting them down, individually, and having a heart-to-heart. Don't be accusatory and be open minded and prepared for what they might say. Make sure you don't get defensive either since it will cause the conversation to get confrontational.
2. Have a talk with your boyfriend and let him know that you will always be upfront and honest with him. If what you did in the past was cheat, you're going to be putting a lot of work in to regain his trust. Be patient.
3. End the relationship completely. If it bothers you that much, this is your LAST resort. If the stress of it all becomes overwhelming, try weighing out the pros and cons of the relationship as a whole.
4. Avoid his parents at all costs. You might not have to do this for a long time, maybe just until they cool down. Sometimes people will reconsider their viewpoint after some time apart.
5. One or more of the ideas above. You can try all but number 3 if you think it's best.
Good luck to you. :)
2007-03-25 04:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Melissa,
If you have a past, then you can understand why his parents are concerned, but if you want to be straight with him, then just be upfront. Warn him that he might have to make a choice between his parents and you. That's about all you can do and then it'll be up to him. Try to be prepared for whatever his answer is (only two choices). Of course, if he chooses you and you treat him right, his parents will come around eventually.
2007-03-25 04:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by elden w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi !!!
I'm sorry, but I think that you are to ahead of yourself here wit this situation. Parents usually never like the girlfriends, in the first place, and always try to find faults to them!!!
You are still young, and should be thinking about how to secure your future rather than on how to make your boyfriend's parents like you!!!
Sitting down with them is to waste everybody's time. So I suggest to you , first think about what kind of life will you live, being so young, and NO EDUCATION!!!! BOTH OF YOU!!!!
Then think about, how miserable you are feeling today. Are you ready to live such a miserable life, from now on????
Actually it would not even be a life!!!! It would be more like a saga, constantly, arguments, and fightings, and his parents, telling lies about you every week, or every month.
Then on top of that your boyfriend "ALMOST" believing the lies, and DO YOU REALLY THINK , YOU WOULD BE ABLE TO BE HAPPY??? No!!!!
So that's why I suggest to you:
First think about educating yourself, "BIG TIME"!!!!!
Second, find a good paying job, so you don't have to relay on anybody, and be fruitful to society.
Third, have fun and try to live and learn from life, see places, meet people. Be independent then and only then think about sharing you life with someone else.
By this time you will forget about your boyfriend now, and this parents, of his, that are only desperately trying to keep him from making the biggest mistake of his life!!!
NOT BEING EDUCATED AND HAVING SOMEONE TO TAKE CARE OF!!!!
Sweetie think about it, I know is hard, but honey it is the truth!
MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU FROM HAVING A BIG RESPONSABILITY THAT YOU WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO ASSUME, BEING SO YOUNG!!!!!
A.Z.
2007-03-25 05:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try. You cannot fault parents for wanting only the best for their son. And what have you reflected to them to show you are not the same person you were in the past? Family (unlike friends, girlfriends, boyfriends) are always in your life--i recommend not doing anything to damage his relationship with his family. And if they do not accept you---try harder and do positive things to make them see you in a different light. If you truly want a healthy relationship--you must try to appease all parties involved. Good luck!
2007-03-25 04:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by pmbrundle74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They see two very young people who are just starting out in life and have no idea of what lies before them. They will not concede anytime soon and in my opinion everyone should live a little before making decisions that will affect your entire life.
2007-03-25 04:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by caos_bam_bam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. I guess you should maybe try sitting down with his parents and try get to know them and they'll be able to get to know you. Once they get to know you then they'll see the true you and won't make up bullshit lies up so you and your boyfriend break up. Just because his parents can't handle the fact that he's in love doesn't mean they have to ruin it.
2007-03-25 04:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by PWD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your own apartment and date some other men until you find one you like with parents who aren't so icky!
2007-03-25 04:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by Robert L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋