He looks at hardcore porn single everyday (movies, internet). He found out that I sent a male friend (in another state) nude pictures of me. He was very angry and hurt. Do you think this is a double standard or do you think I was totally wrong?
2007-03-24 21:29:54 · 3 answers · asked by Truth Hurts 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why, exactly, are you sending nude pictures of yourself to other men?
I just don't quite understand that.
I'm trying to see both sides of this, but all signs seem to point to your being in the wrong. In my personal opinion, there's nothing wrong with porn. It's okay if you don't like it, but you can't "punish" your boyfriend unless you've made it clear your feelings and the rules about it. If you're trying to say that watching porn and sending nude pictures are the same thing, thus it's a double standard, well, I completely disagree. One involves only one party- your boyfriend. His sexual episodes are one-sided. Sending nude pictures involves two people: yourself and the recipient. That's bringing another person into your private sexual life, which, unless you are polyamorous and have talked about this first, is what's commonly known as cheating. Even if your intentions aren't to actually cheat, you're engaging in something that is dishonest and unfair. Not to mention my original question- why are you sending someone nude pictures of yourself?
Anyhow, I think it's time for an apology and to sit down and talk things out openly and honestly, non-judgementally. Something is going on in your relationship, and I hope you two can get to the bottom of it.
Hope that helps.
2007-03-25 00:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sending nude pictures of yourself to someone is quite different than him viewing porn. He's your boyfriend. I have no doubt he was angry and hurt.
Two very separate issues. I don't think it's a double standard at all.
He sounds like he has an addiction. Did you send the pictures out of spite? Why would you send nude pictures of yourself to anyone?
Sounds like you both have a little something that needs figuring out.
2007-03-25 00:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Zasu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is not having any personal and sexual relationships with the porn actresses he likes to watch. He is just watching them anonymously as a voyeur. And there is virtually no chance that he might elope with one of his favorite porn stars and run away from you with her.
But you are having a personal and sexual relationship with another guy. And there is a chance that you might want to leave your present boyfriend and get on with the other guy. That's why your present boyfriend is jealous and angry.
He has no sexual relationship with another woman. But you do have a sexual relationship with another guy. And that's the difference between you and him.
A double standard would've been if he watched porn all the time, but got upset when you started watching porn too.
2007-03-25 06:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋