I need good tips to help me catch my lying cheating man out?

Question

My man (or should I say OUR MAN) was out with sum woman last night, but I confront him, he'll only deny it. So i want to catch him out and get a confession... ASAP

Answer 1

Who was the woman? Make sure you don't over react, you seem angry. You personally following him would be suspicious, get an accomplice. lol

You should tell him you are going out one night or for a few days. Go visit some friends and stay the night or something. Just get away for a while.

Once you are gone get a friend to watch him and see if anyone comes over to your place or if he goes anywhere. If he does make sure u find out who the person is and confront them first.

Then once youve got your information go and confront him with your evidence -don't reveal your partner.

However, if you want a relationship to run on trust go talk to him first and if he doesn't confess (don't tell him you know he's gone to see the other woman, they may get him suspicious)

Say something like 'I love you, you love me too, right' or 'You know you can trust me with anything and I won't get mad with anything you tell me. No matter what I'll understand.' If you aren't satisfied with his response then do the above.

Answer 2

Now see, that is one thing I will not tolerate, would never tolerate..

If it were me.. I would make sure my butt was covered first. Just to put the fear of God into him. I would hit the bank. Close out the accounts and open accounts in just your name.. move the money there. cancel his credit cards....I think is wallet was stolen.. your cards are still good. That will cut down on is ability to pay for "the other woman". Then follow him.. I would use a rental because he knows your car. grab your camera and a couple of sandwiches and sodas and have a picnic while you nail the cheating.

After you have the proof you need... then I would ask for a chat...... But you need to realize, again.. I have no patience for this behavior AT ALL. ... I would begin by showing him the pics.... and he needs to have a really really good story.. ex: this woman is picking a new anniversary ring for you and she is his consultant, and I would STILL want to see credentials!!!, without a good excuse.. then I would show him the -0- balance in the checking account(s) and savings, the new accounts, and the business card for the biggest shark of an attorney that you can find.

As he's sweating.. have a towel handy... you can decide if he has a chance to get back in good graces, or if you are going to follow through. But I would make she my husband knew that I was serious.

But, please understand..... this is me we are talking about. and what I would do.

and I can't tolerate a cheat or a liar. And I think they need to get a good smack up side the head!! metaphorically speaking, of course.

shortly after we were married a friend of mine came over in tears, her husband was having an affair. i saw red!!! My aunt had been left high and dry because her husband had cleaned out everything before he told her he wanted a divorce. I went to the bank with my friend and did the above... the credit cards... everything. He actually had the nerve to come here looking for a place to spend the night. I offered him the patio where the dog house is. So my husband saw first hand what I would do.. how I feel about promises and vows taken.. when I give my word, and that's what wedding vows are, I keep it. I expect the same from my husband.

After 34+ years he still calls me his gift from God, but at times, he also tells me I'm scary.... LOL

My friend's husband.......he's on his 3rd marriage, and paying child support only because the state garnishes his wages. Your's may not be that bad.. but you can still scare the pants (no pun) off him.

Good luck!!!!!

Answer 3

Hire a private investigator to do all the work for you. You can ask them for both audio and visual proof (picture and/or video.
Or you can follow him the next time he goes out and catch him red-handed. Bring a video camera and digital camera. If you have a close girlfriend, bring her too. She'll make a good witness.

Answer 4

First, you'll probablly never get a confession, unless you get him on tape. You could hire a private eye, or have a friend tail him. But I think the best thing you could do is just leave. It's clear that you don't trust him, and without trust you don't have a relationship.

Answer 5

If you know it's true i wouldn't even bother...i'd suprise him by packing my stuff and getting the hell out of there. You don't need that drama girl! There is a man out there that wants only you, and will treat you like the queen you are---don't ever play second to anyone! No man is worth it and who wants the sloppy seconds he is giving you. Good luck!

Answer 6

Hey sweety well first of all confronting him was very good.. You know when a man is lien, also when there very defensive that gives it up automatically... Then another way is they cant look you straight in your face and they studder i have brothers and cousins and they tell me then on-top of that mamas Ive been in contact with those kind of men....

Answer 7

if use have msn make a account as another woman desperate for someone get a pic of some hot chick off the internet and say thats her

than when he says he will meet u somewhere go there and say i caught u and neva talk to him again
lol

or put a letter in the mail sayin i had fun last nite than wateva ur mans name is than keep puttin letters in the mail then make one for urself an ask him wat it is?

Answer 8

Why? Unless you are married. Otherwise just dump him an move on. It's not like a job where you have to give a reason for dismissal.

Answer 9

im just replying to the anser u just gave me adn i lov her alot and a appreciate what u said and i know what u mean i cant stand how some dudes dont even bother with there girls and treat them like **** im just trying to do the world a favor ahah

Answer 10

i agree...if u no he a lying cheatin a--hole then why not just get rid of the trash? u deserve better...