My grandparents did not want my dad for mom.. after getting married my grandfather forcely asked my mom to leave their house.. After few months I was conceived and born.. They ask my mom to live with them again together with us. I grew up experiencing physical abuse from my grandfather. If they both found occasion they will embarrased me infront of my relatives. They dont want me.. I want to leave this place (were living near their house.. My heart is full of grudges..
I excel in my the class without any failing grades but they look at me as if Im bad. They are not proud of me.
I dont know what to do...
2007-03-24 21:14:26 · 8 answers · asked by Ryan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, your grandparents' behavior is no reflection on you. You are still the divine spirit that you were when you were born, you're doing well in school, and it seems to me that you want to make your life better. All of these things are admirable.
I know it feels awful when your family does not treat you lovingly or tries to embarrass you. The main thing to remember is that their behavior has NOTHING to do with you. It is a reflection of their narrow-mindedness and ignorance; feel sorry for them and don't focus too much energy on them--focusing on the negative will only make you hurt more. And they can only embarrass you if you let them--if you refuse to feel embarrassed and you stand up for yourself, you'll be on the road to independence and self-esteem.
I encourage you to do what I did--find a group of friends that will be your "adopted" family--people from all ages and walks of life that want you around and treat you with the love and respect that you deserve. You can't choose your family, but you can choose whether to spend time with them and whether to let their verbal abuse affect you.
If the physical abuse is still going on, I strongly suggest you contact an authority figure--a teacher, or police officer, etc.
Best of luck to you, remember that you are wonderful, and blessings to you.
2007-03-24 21:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way. There are grandfathers out there who could give a rip if there grandsons grow up well rounded or not - meaning they treat their grandchildren like play toys and are unable to set any kind of example because they never grew up. I kid you not, how would you like a grandfather that acted like a child and didn't discipline you, did not guide you, or model structure...your father figure isn't around so your (grand)father is it for the duration.
If all you got was a your butt spanked turn off the rumor mill because it isn't a good thing to be bought and sold....that brainwashing garbage is more so abuse than anything. That's people wanting you to feel like a chronic victim so you spend the rest of your life paying them to cry to. That's where you are headed if you don't get out of the victim mode and fill your life with positive attitude and leave the child raising to the adults.
"I excel in my the class without any failing grades but they look at me as if Im bad. They are not proud of me."
2007-03-24 23:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crappy hand you've been dealt kid.
Keep doing good in school...no matter what. Let their BS fuel your desire to leave.
Then when it's time and you're old enough, you leave.
When they die, you go back and take a leak on their grave. They don't deserve a grandson like you.
Or you could just poison them.
Whatever you think's best.
I'd opt for option one though.
Good Luck and keep up the good work in school.
2007-03-24 21:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Love Answers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing to do! Just stay as far away from them as possible. Just because they're related, doesn't mean you have to like them ! There are a lot of bad people in the world, &, unfortunately, sometimes we're related to them. (Hopefully, they'll be dead soon!)
Live your own life, stay away from anyone abusive, and find peace in your own life without them. You don't need their acceptance !
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2007-03-24 21:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by Maewest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abuse oh naw-aw, i wouldn't even want a realtionship with them. it's not your fault that they don't like ur dad and if they want to take it out on you thinking thats going to change something then they are messed up in the head. you should find someone you can talk to, friends, family, your mom maybe. you dont need those kinds of people in your life
2007-03-24 21:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by chanteezy B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother and father are responsible for this. You do not say how old you are - but you should not be subjected to their behaviour. Go and see the school counsellor immediately.
2007-03-24 21:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, just laugh at how immature they are for old people for not accepting the way things are.
2007-03-24 21:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you are still in school, promise yourself someday when they get very very old and need you, you just dump them in any old people home.
2007-03-24 21:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by ubon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋